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I Pretend I'm Okay

as with most sexually explicit ppl like me, a lot of it I'm sure stems from low self esteem, anxiety issues, and depression. I wont go into all that... but I found that the more I pretend to be okay, the easier it is to believe I am actually okay. and the best way to pretend? by doing something I like.
like getting on my knees for the men who are willing to make me feel worthwhile.
#sorrynotsorry

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th3r0n · 41-45, M

You need love not sex dear

Love heals, sex just feels good and distracts from the pain

StellaJ · 31-35, F

Be a slut with the right people

Xuan12 · 31-35, M

Well, you're definitely worth more than that. I know it's hard to feel that way sometimes, but it's absolutely true. I'm not here to judge though. Whatever you need to do to get by is okay with me. But I hope that in time, you're able to feel better all on your own. Best wishes. :)

UserNameSW · 46-50, M

Hopefully you can stop pretending and actually be OK with who you are.

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UserNameSW · 46-50, M

Sorry for my incorrect assumption.

Do you fell OK?

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funfan · 51-55, M

@lindzygirl are you coming back on here? :/

sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M

Whatever you are choosing to do, at least you seem to have some self-awareness regarding it.

Capricorn · 46-50, M

Do what makes you feel happy, even if that happiness is only on the surface. Fake it till you make it

MrGoodbar · 51-55, M

it works the same for us guys always looking to please

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Benjr134 · M

My thing is we all are somewhat like that. We pretend we're ok. Some people think that resorting to the sexual isn't good, but what if we enjoy that. I mean I get joy from pleasing others. Sometimes that's making them laugh, or making them a delicious meal. Other times it's by taking them to bed and doing debaucherous things with them.

PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M

For whatever it is worth if it makes you feel good and it makes you happy and you don't hurt anyone embrace it and go with it. You at least seem aware of what it is about for you and that it does serve a purpose and don't let anyone shame you for that. And that self awareness should keep it from controlling you and becoming destructive.

SoftServe · 26-30, M

We appreciate your service.

Newandimproved · 61-69, M

you sound awesome

karlsway · 41-45, M

Fake it till you make it

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tynamite · 31-35, M

live your life

westwiiler · 51-55, M

godluvya.....

PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M

Just because what you like doing is not socially acceptable I don't necessarily think that means you are broken or damaged.

HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M

Rutterman · 46-50, M

I'm sure you're a worthwhile person to begin with. That said, I'd be more than willing to help make you feel that way.

mathsman · 70-79, M

How refreshingly open
I think it's more complex than you think

lindzygirl · 22-25, F

@mathsman: I really don't. I like sex. It makes me feel good. So I do it.

mathsman · 70-79, M

@lindzygirl: no, not the liking sex so doing it lots, but the low self-esteem, anxiety issues, etc. They all have their roots somewhere, and that maybe what's driving you.

Sicarium · 46-50, M

Meh, there's people out there doing way worse. Do you what you gotta do until you realize you're fine.

JP1119 · 36-40, M

Do you also like talking about your sexual experiences? Would you PM me?

crystalkid · 56-60, T

I find I always feel better doing something I enjoy as well

karlsway · 41-45, M

I would love to help make you feel worthwhile

th3r0n · 41-45, M

Honestly, pretending only gets you so far

Look for real love, whether it be from friends or family or a man, someone who is willing to be there for you and give you hugs and listen to you

Lust gives pleasure when fulfilled and distracts you from the pain; it takes time but love can actually heal you

Khenpal1 · M

many of your age do the same thing.

wildbill562 · 61-69, M

You go girl! Suck it off and jerk it....

BearDownChicago · 41-45, M

Don't be sorry. Sometimes sexuality is a release for us. As long as we go in with eyes wide open and understand any consequences. Whether be just flirting. Being a bit naughty online or taking things further. We all live with our decisions. And nothing to be sorry for

lonelyIT

I pretend im ok too, and im bad at it
Being sexually very open actually never helped, Just the opposite :(

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