Do you think it's selfish to avoid large social gatherings?

You should read a book called Quiet. It’s about introversion and it helped me understand there’s nothing wrong with how I feel - which is a lot like how you feel.

I think the important things is to respect yourself first. I struggle most when it comes to funerals. I feel like I should go out of respect but I never know what to say and I almost always say something awkward. Plus I remember when people showed up to my parents funerals and many I had never even met before - their friends from grade school even! And it’s meant a lot to me.

When it came to my wedding I didn’t even wanna have one haha. So I wasn’t offended when people didn’t wanna come. There’s prob a lot of people who feel the same when they get married so look at it that way.

No I’m the same way.. I will try to get out of going to a big gathering the minute I’m invited.. it’s not that I don’t like the people it’s just that big gatherings give me anxiety and make me exhausted

I feel pretty similarly, social gatherings are draining and I find it hard to socialize with people often. Occasionally I enjoy myself but depends on the crowd.

I personally don’t think so but I’m an introvert.
Every once in a blue moon, I can muster up enough strength to social with a large gathering full of extroverts but it exhausts me and then I have to have introvert recovery time

No I do not like large social Gatherings either I have PTSD and I have learned to deal with them okay but they are certainly not my favorite occasions I can go to them but every so often I need a little break

I don't think it selfish at all. I look at it as self-preservation. Anytime you do something that is good to and for you that is not selfishness but taking care of yourself.

I am with you. Social events drain me frazzle me so much. I just get myself worked up

No it’s not selfish. Depends on who will be there if I want to cancel. Not everyone brings a good vibe.

You're not terrible. I'm the same way, introverted.

If you are part of a family yourself or have extended family obligations, then you do have some obligations.. But if not, then your time shoulod be your own to choose what to do..😷

I would not go because my social anxiety stops me, so it is not selfish at all

No, not at all. It just sounds like you're a classic introvert!

Well what ever make you happy .

Not at all. I wish I could enjoy what you described but it's too damn difficult. My weak smile and my eyes looking at the time every 30 seconds (when will this all end, Lord!) betray me.

Maybe

No I don't think so, I think I'm doing people a favor by not going

I feel wildly uncomfortable at large gatherings/events too.

Nope.

selfish, no, but maybe a social necessity.

No i dont like crowds

Sounds like a perfect plan

God provides opportunities to do His work.

Just focus on what’s important

Are you shy?

No

I don't go out much either

It depends on the social gathering.