I hate being ghosted 👻

I feel it often.
Its one thing not to get answers on my first messages due to the warning on my profile, I may understand that.
But its worse to convince people to chat with me though, explaining to them my warning, chatting with them for a while, and suddenly they stop answering without an understandable reason. As if I suddenly have gotten online leprosy or something. 😞

How can people be so cruel and read how I beg for a simple answer up to a dozen times, sometimes over years, instead just answering: "Go away, I don't want to chat with you anymore, because [reason]". Is that so difficult?

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twistedrope · 26-30, M

Most people won't put in the extra effort to be considerate to a stranger. These are the same people imo who don't wash their hands and leave trolleys without putting them back at car parks.

Or they just move on. Or they can't assert their own feelings because its too hard. Some people can't even say the word "No."

So... Tons of reasons. Just... Keep on at it I guess. Allow people the time to take themselves. I give about 3 weeks before assuming they'll never respond again and move onto one of the other few billion people on the planet. That's how I feel for the first few months.

But losing someone to not responding after years who just stops responding is called loss and is justifiable to grieve for. That's a friend who has disappeared and should be ashamed for not offering an explanation.

At least these are my thoughts.

in10RjFox · M

As if I suddenly have gotten online leprosy or something.

😀😀😀 That was a good one. But that's how people are.. they are scared of all things about online, but wanna be online.
They only talk all the time that they are not this or that, but can't say who they are.

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

@in10RjFox I agree, Sir

rfatoday · 61-69, M

The thing to keep in mind about anonymous sites like this for me anyway, is to not have any expectations. It would be nice to not be ghosted, of course. But I've had many nice chats with folks who disappeared. I've been blocked for merely saying hello and introducing myself. But you are right... I'd rather know someone is not longer interested in chatting if that's the case. Just don't take it personally and allow it to ruin your day. Nothing here is worth that. :)

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

@rfatoday Thank you Sir, but I am here for 4 years and some of my chat partners were with me the whole time or at least some years, and suddenly left me, without telling a reason! That hurts. I thought we had a relationship. At least I took it serious. Its difficult not to take it serious after years, I think.

rfatoday · 61-69, M

@MissyChrissy Maybe something happened to them, albeit unfortunate if that was the case. Sorry to hear that.

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

@rfatoday No, some stayed online, but ghosted me from now on. Others blocked me.

496sbc · 36-40, M

I would not ghost u hun i never ever would but see it happens to me so much

Klingwood · 61-69, M

Oh I know the feeling very well.i don't get people

Strict4u · 56-60, M

Yes being ghosted on here happens a lot on here it’s not just you it happens to all of us don’t let it get you down I’m sure you have plenty of friends on here you are amazing

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

@Strict4u Thank you Sir, you are kind like usual.

Strict4u · 56-60, M

@MissyChrissy I always enjoy talking about discipline with you and getting your thoughts about it

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

@Strict4u Me too, Sir

inaccessible · 51-55, M

Maybe because you stopped replying to them :(

MissyChrissy · 18-21, F

@inaccessible No Sir, I never stopped. They stopped replying to me.

inaccessible · 51-55, M

@MissyChrissy
Sometimes you're online but busy with other friends and some people will just stop chasing you when you keep telling them that you're busy.

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