Forgiveness is hard. I swear. This is absolute truth that is inside me right now. Last year i...

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

You [i]never[/i] owe someone forgiveness except yourself for holding poor boundaries with toxic people. You now know the depths at which their toxicity is capable so you now know to set and maintain strong boundaries with them in future workplace engagements.

jehova · 31-35, M

Did u document these things? Take them to hr. Thats probably best.

Colonelmustardseed · 36-40

Don’t let them turn you into a sort of person you don’t want to be. The ugliness in their hearts infect enough others who have the misfortune of still working with them regularly.
I’m sorry you went through that, and I hope you won’t have any trouble from them or anyone else tomorrow. 🙏

SW-User

Do the bare minimum that won’t get you in trouble. Avoid if you can afford it. Don’t risk your livelihood because of your emotions. Yeah, people can be pure trashes sometimes. You have to look out for yourself first.

It’s best to keep your emotions out of it, but at the same time try to avoid them when you can without harming your employment.

Btw, you don’t have to forgive them. You can choose to forget what they did to you in the present moment. Though, that doesn’t necessarily mean they can be friends ever. Forget, but don’t forgive.

ihurtmychin · 26-30, M

speak your mind ! highlight the events that lead to a mistake , give details about what happened so they better understand the situation

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Forgiveness has levels. The first level, you forgive enough not to exact revenge. Be it a punch in the mouth or slashing their tires. The next level you will speak civilly to them, or associate with them. These levels are practical for social purposes and to avoid wasting effort..
Beyond that requires you allow the person access to yourself and let your guard down. And thats a whole new ball game..
My experience has been that those I might wish to take revenge on often do the job themselves if given a little time.. And I keep my guard up until that happens..😷

zentic · 26-30, M

I think you should prioritize your upward mobility rather than revenge.

4meAndyou · F

Does your company have an HR department? If it does, then you need to very secretly and carefully make recordings of your boss and her bestie verbally abusing you, and take it to HR. On your lunch break, so they won't twig to your absence.

And then, update your resume, and send it out EVERYWHERE.

GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

I can relate to this. I am sorry.

ABCDEF7 · M

Forgetting is more important than forgiving. As it is for you..

At work place you surely need to be professional, even if you are working with your spouse. Outside the work place, you are free to do how you treat the different relationship with various people.

Benjago

You owe nothing to them. Keep it a professional mindset and do what’s needed to get through it. Avoidance is tough still working there I’m sure.

mindstruggle

Keep your boundaries and keep it professional. I extremely feel you on this as I was bullied at my new job too while I didn’t do anything.

I am so sorry. 😔

Kitsunex

Record everything get a lawyer

SW-User

That must be hurtful. Rising above petty behaviour… taking the higher road will always be harder … mentally tougher than taking the path of least resistance

But in time you will come out stronger for it

And in the end you will have them to thank for it.

Keep patient… keep going

This too shall pass.

NativePortlander1970 ·

Talk to the HR manager, that's their job to prevent work place hostility.