Forgiveness is hard.

I swear. This is absolute truth that is inside me right now.

Last year i bullied and belittled at work by my boss and her bestie. It got to a point where i had to get out. They were targeting me. Every mistake was being blown way out of proportion. I still work at the same compony and tomorrow they might need my help. I will need to be professional. But heaven help me if I have to hear their voices tomorrow. I still have nightmares about what they did to me. It was completely emotionally abusive work place. Toxic to the point of suffocation.

And right now all i can think is the endless amount of damage i can do by just not answering the phone. But like i said i need to be professional and my upward mobility might be on the line.

Anyone got thoughts?

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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Forgiveness has levels. The first level, you forgive enough not to exact revenge. Be it a punch in the mouth or slashing their tires. The next level you will speak civilly to them, or associate with them. These levels are practical for social purposes and to avoid wasting effort..
Beyond that requires you allow the person access to yourself and let your guard down. And thats a whole new ball game..
My experience has been that those I might wish to take revenge on often do the job themselves if given a little time.. And I keep my guard up until that happens..😷