4meAndyou · F
I once dated a man...(VERY briefly)...who wanted me to move in with him. He had photos of his deceased wife ALL over the house, including his bedroom, and did not bother to remove them while giving me a tour of the house.
He was obviously stuck in the rut of the past, and I just didn't care about him enough to wait for years and years while he worked his way up and out. He had certainly committed to his deceased wife, but would never commit to anyone else.
He was obviously stuck in the rut of the past, and I just didn't care about him enough to wait for years and years while he worked his way up and out. He had certainly committed to his deceased wife, but would never commit to anyone else.
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@4meAndyou I think that is not uncommon, but he can turn the page eventually if you are willing to have the patience
4meAndyou · F
@atlantic59 I didn't care about him enough to put up with that.
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@4meAndyou That's true sometimes it's easy to leave before you become invested
Selah ·
I don't do trailer park drama
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@Selah lol me too,
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@Selah aw, come on, a little heavy drama keeps you young...until the violence, of course leaves life time scars. -Still....
akindheart · 61-69, F
hmmmm...EASY DECISION . kick him to the curb...ain't no way I am looking at another woman's name on his chest..
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atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@akindheart oh my....doctor, please be gentle...or not...
akindheart · 61-69, F
@atlantic59 i have the perfect response to that but I shall hold myself back
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@akindheart okay, I will just remain calm and wonder, and try and go about my daily business...I am having trouble breathing though
metaldog · 51-55, F
aww yeah sounds like a keeper
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@metaldog I sincerely hope this is sarcasm because I'm very sensitive person,
Please say it loud and clear
I need advice
Please say it loud and clear
I need advice
revenant · F
If he really wanted you he would take the tattoo off. Removing the tattoo is no big deal, it is not like asking him to cut off his little finger. You should not have the reminder of his ex every day !🙂
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@atlantic59 but lately I stay locked up in my basement
after some of my in depth reporting got reported on
after some of my in depth reporting got reported on
revenant · F
@atlantic59 😏
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
once what was once called Journalism
someone now cites as Voyeurism
and what someone suggests as Realism
is just a sample of my jism
someone now cites as Voyeurism
and what someone suggests as Realism
is just a sample of my jism
Teirdalin · 31-35
Claiming to want to marry for the manipulation aspect, but in reality he wants to marry his ex.
Teirdalin · 31-35
@RadiantRose "he doesn't want to abadon her" "roommates"
Sure they're not sleeping together?
Sure they're not sleeping together?
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@Teirdalin can you dm me pls i need to talk to someone very anxious
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@RadiantRose that sounds insightfully accurate
BiasForAction · M
I’d say you could do better
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@BiasForAction when i asked him if he considers to tattooe my name he said that he done with the decade of tattoos 💀
BiasForAction · M
@RadiantRose then he should remove the one he has
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@RadiantRose now that's a flag

SW-User
I wouldn't want to be with him and let him deal with the ghosts of his ex.
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
I'd be more concerned about which name is tattooed in his heart ❤
He is probably still hurting. Some wounds heal very slowly.
But if he can't let her go, you have to let him go :/
He is probably still hurting. Some wounds heal very slowly.
But if he can't let her go, you have to let him go :/
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@Busybee333 Thank you hun
It hurts but I will
I've been hurt in the past
My heart can not take any longer
It hurts but I will
I've been hurt in the past
My heart can not take any longer
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
@RadiantRose
You can confront him and tell him exactly how you feel and why you feel hurt. No need to blame.. he's just trying to be with you while still aching for her. Inform him what is going on in your heart. If he doesn't take drastic action to save the relationship... it means he still cares more about her, in which case you are better off alone. If you see big changes however, it may be that realizing he's about to lose you woke him up, in which case he may deserve a second chance. A middle ground would be to take a break and let him recover for a pre-determined time.. then go on a date again after said time..to sort out the final decision about your relationship .
You can confront him and tell him exactly how you feel and why you feel hurt. No need to blame.. he's just trying to be with you while still aching for her. Inform him what is going on in your heart. If he doesn't take drastic action to save the relationship... it means he still cares more about her, in which case you are better off alone. If you see big changes however, it may be that realizing he's about to lose you woke him up, in which case he may deserve a second chance. A middle ground would be to take a break and let him recover for a pre-determined time.. then go on a date again after said time..to sort out the final decision about your relationship .
Iusedtobehereallthetime · 31-35, F
A few red flags there Id say.
Iusedtobehereallthetime · 31-35, F
@RadiantRose okay yeah.... Get rid of him. He doesn't value you.
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@Iusedtobehereallthetime Thank you, your advice is well taken
Iusedtobehereallthetime · 31-35, F
@RadiantRose I've been there. The sooner it's over the better. You deserve more. ❣️
GunFinger · F
If he's not willing to remove it for you, think of the other things you want and he would not do for you.
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@GunFinger Absolutely 💯
An ex tattooed on him..nah, no way. Bye bye boy 🤦♀️🙄🙅🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️

SW-User
run run as fast as you can
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@SW-User even in broken high heels, keep on running
NerdyPotato · M
Run!
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Ask him if he loved someone, would he be willing to remove her name or cover it with something new. If he refuse he's not ever gonna be commited, he will be treating you as a rebound.
If he still has her at heart, he is not ready to embrace you
And the worst part is, his ex knows this. He does too.
Also, who is the new guy his ex is with now?
And the worst part is, his ex knows this. He does too.
Also, who is the new guy his ex is with now?
Steve42 · 56-60, M
He is obviously not done with the ex.
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@Steve42 of course he has residual issues..let him explore and then fly like a new butterfly away
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
Wait until he's asleep, sweetie.....get a black marker......then colour it in! *Giggles*
🤣
🤣
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@atlantic59 ...could write YOUR name on there instead, sweetie!
Why, I thought it was more funny than nasty!
🤣
Why, I thought it was more funny than nasty!
🤣
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
@CassandraSissy ok, right my name there. I just love how you use a felt pen instead of a dremel
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@atlantic59 Oooooooh! That is funny!!!!!!!
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
what are the letters, I know I could change names respectively, with that right engraving tool (I mean tattoo tool) why can't everyone just get along
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
He won’t remove it = he don’t love you
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
Why are you with him? Talks about her. Has her name tattooed and doesn't want to remove it.. wtf!
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
He's trying so genuinely to come off as serious 😫 but i have my doubts
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@RadiantRose I do not know much about your relationship.. But If I were you, I'd have a serious chat with him about my doubts and if he doesn't give me a straight answer as to why he doesn't want to remove another girl's name off his chest, I'd most likely tell him goodbye.
Teirdalin · 31-35
@BittersweetPotato Plus he's living with her too, she mentioned in another reply.
akindheart · 61-69, F
That would kill the orgasm quota right there
Zonuss · 46-50, M
Not doing that.
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
lmao what the hell are you doing with this person
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@CountScrofula he is trying to come off as serious 😫 but i have my doubts
Monalisaa1986 · 36-40, F
They are still into their exs I wouldn’t date him
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@RadiantRose When a person shows you who they are, believe them!
This guy is throwing so many red flags at you. You deserve better.

This guy is throwing so many red flags at you. You deserve better.

empanadas · 31-35, M
If you ignore this red flag, you deserve all the bs that comes with it
RadiantRose · 31-35, F
@empanadas I agree , i knew something was off that's why I'm venting here , Sigh 😕
empanadas · 31-35, M
@RadiantRose yeah I get but don't lower your standards. Idk you but you deserve better than a guy with his ex tattoo on his chest. Shows dude is the obsessives type