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iamnikki · 31-35, F
When they do what they say they are gonna do.
When they show up to meet me on time .
When they are gonna be late or can't make it , they say so.
Observing how they treat others
When they show up to meet me on time .
When they are gonna be late or can't make it , they say so.
Observing how they treat others
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WhateverWorks · 36-40
@Renkon well, work in the sense that being a reliable person takes consistent effort and regular use of your executive functioning skills. Good communication takes effort. On occasion, it can be work to make ann ethical decision in a complicated situation.
Renkon · 41-45, M
@WhateverWorks That's true.
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@iamnikki That last one "observing how they treat others" is so true.
SW-User
I feel you are asking in curiosity, philosophically, but if they were to ask this question too much I wouldn't trust them (you). If they never asked me to trust them, I'm not sure if I could trust without either. Any time I have trusted, it's been based upon my intuition, and even though I have things I want to trust upon, it's been broken before and without explaining in turn I learned I trusted them more.
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@Renkon Years ago.... The harsher reality would be not letting her be who she is... (not going to detail relationship parts), as I fell in love with *her*.... and not some artifice of what we demand of another.
Renkon · 41-45, M
@SW-User Hmm...you moved on, I guess, but with a harsh lesson.
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@Renkon Hardly, but I see where you are imposing moral lessons..
in10RjFox · M
Firstly trusting arises only if there is going to be some relationship or business with that person. If I need to trust, then I will observe how they present themselves and how they respect values, their choice of words and whether they are trying to act trustworthy to achieve something. Then I will test their patience by asking more questions or posing what if situations to see how they respond. Those untrustworthy shall respond impatiently or act as if they are the best. And some go on the defence by saying how they don't trust others.
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Sometimes you can't know at first meeting. There are psychopaths who can charm anyone initially. As you get to know them, warning signs include: excessive bragging, hate speech, overly rude, aggressive talk or behavior, love of violence or love of talking about violence, pushy or controlling behavior -- including people who try to force you into accepting help (always beware of this one).
Carissimi · F
You can’t know on first meeting. You can’t know until time passes, and you see how trustworthy they are in different scenarios. Trust must be earned, not freely given. Only a fool would trust someone they don’t know well.
Jonjdw · 51-55, M
What kind of stuff usually takes time. But sometimes you can get a feeling about somebody by just the way they carry themselves. And the way they talk.
Ducky · 31-35, F
Nothing. I don't trust people.
deadgerbil · 26-30
If they can't keep their word or have a history of stealing from people etc
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Trust them with something small and see how they handle it. Work your way up from there
being · 36-40, F
If I feel secure around them, heard, respected and a general feeling of balance, not excess things, like praise or criticism or gossip.
If they either open too much or share nothing, that's also not someone I'd trust.
If they either open too much or share nothing, that's also not someone I'd trust.
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Time and lots of time
robertsnj · 56-60, M
How they react to my animals
White lies or lack white lies in day to day interactions. which include exaggerations
Do they talk crap about others in front of me.
Their question to answer ratio (if no or low questions red flag)
White lies or lack white lies in day to day interactions. which include exaggerations
Do they talk crap about others in front of me.
Their question to answer ratio (if no or low questions red flag)
smiler2012 · 56-60
@Renkon 🤔no certainly not i would never trust a stranger on the first time i meet them.i need to get too know them first and see how they tick first never go on first appearances i say .
They shouldn't Yawn even once.
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Renkon · 41-45, M
@Lyfis2live Fair enough. If we can manage, it's ok.
@Renkon btw, my joke fell flat. But it's routine!
Renkon · 41-45, M
@Lyfis2live What do you mean?
Nebula · 41-45, F
Look for them shifty eyes
solitaire · 41-45, F
Their actions vs their words. Do they align?
SW-User
It takes me time.
NinaTina · 26-30, F
I drop 5$
jackrabbit10 · M
@NinaTina he picks it up .and says hay miss I need your phone no, home address car keys credit card no, to give you your five dollars back,
Renaci · 36-40
Trick question. There is no such person.
Your gut feelings
Renkon · 41-45, M
@NativePortlander1970 I was thinking the same. Has it worked for you anytime?
@Renkon Many times
Renkon · 41-45, M
@NativePortlander1970 @NativePortlander1970 Hmm.... if it works, it works. It's good.
I don't find it possible the first time of meeting. You need to know them really well and know their character.