What tells you if a person is trustworthy or not?

What tells you whether a person is trustworthy or not the first time you meet them?
What approach do you use to know if that person can be trusted?

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SW-User

I feel you are asking in curiosity, philosophically, but if they were to ask this question too much I wouldn't trust them (you). If they never asked me to trust them, I'm not sure if I could trust without either. Any time I have trusted, it's been based upon my intuition, and even though I have things I want to trust upon, it's been broken before and without explaining in turn I learned I trusted them more.

Renkon · 41-45, M

@SW-User I am guessing you speak from experience. hmm... once someone break your trust, will it get harder to trust anyone?

SW-User

@Renkon I've had trust betrayed, yes. In that time, I also learned some of what some call trust, and intimacy changed. I don't know how to word, when I asked my partner at the time of an affair and she answered yes, I was given more trust than I would expect from about anyone. Not sure if I can explain it to anyone, but it transforms your relationship, opens it to its most vulnerable parts. She did break my trust, I won't lie there, but opened a conversation that never would have happened.

Renkon · 41-45, M

@SW-User Hmm.... that's harsh reality to face. How are you doing now?

SW-User

@Renkon Years ago.... The harsher reality would be not letting her be who she is... (not going to detail relationship parts), as I fell in love with *her*.... and not some artifice of what we demand of another.

Renkon · 41-45, M

@SW-User Hmm...you moved on, I guess, but with a harsh lesson.

SW-User

@Renkon Hardly, but I see where you are imposing moral lessons..