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Getting people to DM/ chat is so hard on this site!

Why is it so hard to get people to dm you on this site. Is it a bunch of fake accounts? I don’t know what else to do. And when I post no one comments.

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DHggmu · 31-35, M

I’ve been around here long enough that I only message people if we clearly have things in common to talk about and we’ve interacted on many posts beforehand, even then I very rarely message anyone, the fact is not everyone is here to private message, you can understand why women in particular will be wary of men messaging them, as a lot of the time those men just want sexual chat. Just make posts that you are interested in and people will eventually comment, but when it comes to private messaging probably be more patient and see who you click with on public forums first, and read their “about me” to see if they even accept dms, if not then respect their wishes.

MsSwan

@DHggmu

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

This isn't specifically a fetish site, many of us have no interest in chatting with random men because too many of the fetishists don't respect that.

A lot of us are just here to have a laugh and brighten up our day.

Your best bet is to get to know people outside of DM's at first, people who know you well are far more likely to respond to DM's even if they don't share your interests.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

Thank each and every one of yall. For the advice. 1 I never looked at forums before this, so that helps. I’ll try to get to know people prior to messages. I just figured if I messaged a bunch of people surely someone would want to chat.

Ps if any of yall look at my forums, or post and would like to chat let me know in a comment. I’ll be more than happy to get publicly and let you determine when to message. Thank you again!

Musicman · 61-69, MVIP

@Ballplayer28 So what do you like to talk about! What are you into?

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@Musicman sports, farm work, country stuff, fishing & hunting.

Musicman · 61-69, MVIP

@Ballplayer28 What sports do you like? Do you prefer hunting or fishing? How often do you do either one?

LadyGrace · 70-79

They are being cautious and sometimes people just don't have the time though they would like to. Some are just afraid. But we will answer you and try to keep up with your posts because they are just as important as anyone else's.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@LadyGrace I get being afraid and careful but how do you know what the person is about if you don’t even give them a chance?

LadyGrace · 70-79

@Ballplayer28 Exactly.

Tumbleweed · F

People are paranoid of someone they don't know, there are lots of catfish & weirdos here so you'd do better by getting to know people first. Just find a post you like and join in the conversation! There are many groups you could join as well. 🙂

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@Tumbleweed thank you

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@Tumbleweed how do you get to know someone by comments though

Tumbleweed · F

@Ballplayer28 By adding your opinion or simply answering random questions people post, I've made friends here just by responding to posts. Some are funny, some are serious... just join in and someone always strikes up a conversation. Post things yourself, funny pictures, music, stories....

Stephie · 22-25, F

Could it be because of the forums that you subscribed to?

Mainly women will be cautious because of the risks of a DM degenerating into something unwanted or unacceptable to them.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@Stephie well I guess I could change them. I just thought more people would have the same interest. Thank you for your response.

Stephie · 22-25, F

@Ballplayer28 having the same interests does not automatically mean that they want to talk about them.

A lot of people tick certain forums, in particular ones where one can get nudes to get those visuals but don't want to talk about them.

Also, there are a great number of fake accounts.

OliviaOfTheNight

change your gender on here to female and then everyone will DM you and reply to your posts

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Get to know people first making posts and commenting on things.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@Starcrossed I do need to do that more.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

It's more of a forum site than a dating site.
And people have a right to converse in the private messages or not it's up to them and not up to those who wish they could converse with them.

Ballplayer28 · 26-30, M

@Justmeraeagain yes ma’am I understand that. I just found it odd when you message people and don’t hear back from but maybe 3

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Ballplayer28
My philosophy is that if somebody offers me friendship and we are compatible then I'm happy with it even if it's one or two.
I don't really talk in the DM as I'm happy with the friends I have already here.
But, it took me quite awhile to make the friends.
I was on EP for over 6 years, I think.
Have to give things time