Cliffside · 31-35, M
I guess around now myself. I’ve always dressed how I want, but admittedly I care a lot about how people perceive me as a person, not how I look. I’m tall so that’s the first thing everyone always notices but I care about people thinking I’m a decent guy. So outside has never been something I care what people think. I’m in my thirty’s and have my lip pierced if that is any indicator. Inside is what matters, and I care a little too much what people think about me in that sense. We all have something ya know? Even if we don’t like to admit it
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I'm a vulnerable narcissist - have been since forever - and I can see no end in sight.
A vulnerable narcissist is a type of narcissist that tends to be highly self-conscious, insecure, and hypersensitive to rejection. They oscillate between feeling inferior and superior to others, and they become easily offended, anxious, or even hostile when they're not put on a pedestal.
A vulnerable narcissist is a type of narcissist that tends to be highly self-conscious, insecure, and hypersensitive to rejection. They oscillate between feeling inferior and superior to others, and they become easily offended, anxious, or even hostile when they're not put on a pedestal.
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DisarrayedNightshade · 36-40
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ExtremeNext · 36-40
@Strongtea why
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
needsmilk808 · 56-60, M
DisarrayedNightshade · 36-40
@SW-User same though I’ve never worn namebrand clothing, and I’ve always shopped at department stores. I finally realized that I don’t need to look, dress, act, or wear my hair in a certain way for people to like me. What matters most is on the inside and if they don’t like what’s on the outside then they’re most likely not gonna like what’s on the inside.
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@DisarrayedNightshade you do you! That’s all that matters.
DisarrayedNightshade · 36-40
@SW-User thanks 😊
PhoenixPhail · M
soulshadow · 36-40, M
DisarrayedNightshade · 36-40
@Cyclist I know
Monaschandroff86 · F
swirlie · F
Actually, it occurred for me when I turned 13. I had an unusual awakening at the time and it suddenly occurred to me that being 'natural' has more attractive powers than makeup. I was heavily into gymnastics at the time but then immediately started into body sculpting as well for what I wanted to see of myself in the mirror, not for what someone else would like to see.
BigGuy2 · 31-35, M
Do you feel liberated AND irritated that you didn't do it sooner
DisarrayedNightshade · 36-40
@BigGuy2 in a way yes and no. Honestly it started after being treated like sh*t from others for so many years. Being taken advantage of and walked all over. I finally had enough and started to stand up for myself. Then I realized I didn’t care what they thought of me after I stood up for myself. I’ve began to realize that most people’s feelings or insecurities are just a projection of themselves.
BigGuy2 · 31-35, M
@DisarrayedNightshade you've hit the nail right on the head ... Bullies bully you because they're insecure in themselves, so they try and make your life as sh*t as theirs, rather than trying to emulate that person, it's a case of, "i'll make them feel as bad as i do about myself"