@Therealsteve were victims plain and simple either regain your power or stay powerless thats your options but the relationship started on lies where is this gona go?

@TryingtoLava it wont go anywhere <3 She even said to me "stop quoting what I said" when i challenged her last night. Reality doesn't apply, only how she feels in the moment and she will try to contort reality to match her emotions in the moment. Sounds like a straight up quote defining bpd, but its her actions. Text book. I'm happy to not talk to her. Just the blocking part, eh.. i struggle. shes a member of my church. I like her. But is what I like real.

@Therealsteve no its not real so end it now

@ImperialAerosolKidFromEP The trauma bond. The "unfinished story", it's annoying.

@Therealsteve then you know better

@Therealsteve Yes, I was making light. You don't need anyone to tell you what to do...your post says enough to show that.

@SpectralMourning I just need encouragement, trauma bond and unlike many she didnt tell me she had it, in fact when i asked her if she had anything she said she didnt so i let myself get invested.

@Nunlover Borderline Personality Disorder

@Nunlover hahaha no wrong acronym silly

@TryingtoLava

Before the split, she'd send me multiple reels each day. Now a day after the split, she's sent me one, a breadcrumb, to see if she can hoover xD

@Allelse I asked her if she had anything, she said she didn't. However, she came to make me feel this unique horrible feeling of worthlessness that a BPD ex made me feel, triangulated me with ex's just as she did. he was bringing up ex's every other conversation, same theme "i was running after this guy and he treated me like rubbish, because of this I need to keep you at the distance I want you so I'm not uncomfortable" (Standard BDP). Couple her not telling me she had it, with how subtle and gradual their trap is. Once I got those feelings, being a mental health practitioner I put her behaviours against the literature and it fit her insanely well. She actually split last night. I recognised it as a split. We met online, she got her hit of free therapist with the idea that we'd meet in september and build this amazing life. September came, she decided that what I said made her feel the wrong way (didnt matter what I actually said), started faulting every little thing from the past under the sun, said I was "creepy" and "odd" but that we could "talk" and "fix" this. Nope haha.

@AdmiralPrune Borderline Personality Disorder

@Therealsteve Nobody needs that. Unless she’s a ten fund somebody else.

@AdmiralPrune Thank you :)