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GoodwillMbakwe · 36-40, M
Yes dear, I have been looking forward to see Shannon from experience project. My name is Goodwill Mbakwe.

It's the unfortunate reality of online connections.
More than once I've met great people to whom I relate. There's a great dynamic, then weeks become months, and they simply vanish. No notice, no goodbye, no indications.
Fellow users are equally baffled.

The "what ifs" occupy my thoughts. Have they met with an accident, or heaven forbid - death?
More than likely, though, the responsibilities of the offline world demanded their full attention.
Add a negative site experience, and the decision to leave is easy.

While I wish them well, I miss that synergy we once had; and still wonder where they are in this vast world of ours.
Nate931 · 31-35, M
@SethGreene531 This is especially relevant to me because I did have a friend on EP who disappeared on me. I was disappointed, I moved on, but a year later I searched his name and found his obituary, from right when he stopped messaging me. So I can’t help but wonder whenever someone stops talking to me if something bad happened to them…
@Nate931 The brevity of life - a sobering reminder.

I am very sorry for your loss.

An interval of lost contact, bookended in death, compounded your sense of loss and shock all the more.
I can't imagine how you must have felt.

The minority I've lost to death, were well anticipated and openly discussed. We were afforded time to support them, and then properly grieve.


Those I worry about are contacts who disappear after repeated posts about life's overwhelming assault.
The posts most users mistake as vents, rather than a last call for help.

They haunt me the most.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
I have taken it in my stride. I know i will loose as many as i make new.

But yes, i do miss some of them. Even here i SW, i had some friends in previous years, who have left. Your post reminded me of them. Hope they are well, wherever they are.
exexec · 70-79, C
The ones I think about are distant family members whom I have discovered through genealogical research. I enjoyed sharing family information with them, but a few have disappeared, possibly even died.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@exexec thats so nice to know. Keep up the good work. Some day they will thank you for all the database. 😊

What software do you use? I did Ancestry, then shifted to geni.com. now am part of the grand world family tree 😀
exexec · 70-79, C
@WandererTony I keep my information in Family Tree Maker, but I use Ancestry.com for most online research. The two are synched.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@exexec yes yes. I remember. They do.
I think occasionally what happened to old friends from school, work, online, etc. hope they are all doing well, and who knows what the future holds, we may one day cross paths again.
SlippingAway · 46-50, F
Yes, I've lost touch with a few people that I would love to know how they are doing.
alongalone · M
Yes two. A female friend and a guy who was an exceptional poet. Dina and Danny
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
Yes, I have and yes, I do think of how life turned out for them too.
being · 36-40, F
No I don't think about them, I prefer to leave the past to the past whenever it's possible...
Ducky · 31-35, F
Yeah, there are some notable ones who are no longer around that come to mind once in a while.
YoMomma ·
Yeah sometimes 🙂 they were nice
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
Oh yeah, frequently.
I had a good friend on EP.

Then she was practically groomed and we lost touch.
Online and offline, yes; often I do.
SUPERVlXEN · F
There are some that come to mind, but that’s not just online.
I think about some and some not at all.
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
NOT EP/SW

But I do miss a few from Y!A
Nate931 · 31-35, M
@ShenaniganFoodie I was on YA too.
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
@Nate931 We all make mistakes
Musicman · 61-69, M
Yes I do. One in particular.
Wiseacre · F
wtf are online friends? They’re acquaintances, not friends.
Lilnonames · F
As long as, you remember them they will always be in your life👌

 
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