3 weeks of talking to this girl…

And then she asks “is it okay if I’m asexual?”

Like yeah it’s obviously okay, I don’t judge people for their sexuality, but frankly it feels like you wasted my time.

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Why didn't you discuss this before hand? When you meet someone and you're having the get to know me conversation and I'm not talking about weeks later. You have to ask some questions. I am different from most people. I am not going to sugarcoat or coddle people I'm going to tell you exactly what I want and tell you exactly who I am. So that neither of our time is wasted.

Ducky · 31-35, F

Well, not if she just wanted to be friends from the beginning... 🤷‍♀ Though, I personally find it hard to take anyone who refers to themselves as asexual seriously; that if one truly were, they wouldn’t need to say it. Could be her way of trying to tell you she just wants to be friends. Idk

GabbySA8 · F

@Ducky sadly ducky, we met on a dating app and had romantic conversations regularly

Ducky · 31-35, F

@GabbySA8 I see. I’m sorry to hear. You know her better, of course, but it seems to me like she’s only saying she’s asexual as a way of telling you she’s not interested. Whatever the case, it sounds like you were jerked around by her. Sorry that had to happen, but look at the silver lining: better 3 weeks than 3 months or years, like many others spend in empty relationships. Don’t let it bring you down, let this experience make you tougher and wiser instead.