Like, did she give any kind of indication of that beforehand? In your conversations, did she like, seem ace? Did you guys have the “what are you looking for on here?” Discussion? I’m not asexual, I go on dating apps mainly just for hookups and meeting people (tbh I’ve come to realize I’m probably aromantic), while I don’t bust out the aro term I make it clear very early on that I’m not looking for any kind of serious relationship. Weird if she was engaging in talk about doing stuff but never mentioned she actually had no interest in that.
Now, is it possible that she’s asexual but alloromantic? Like maybe she wants a romantic relationship without the sex part? Would still suck if she didn’t communicate that for 3 freaking weeks, but I know some people might still want something with someone even if it’s not sexual. Maybe she didn’t think to mention it because she doesn’t really understand how/why the sex part is genuinely important to a lot of people. An “it’s not something I care about in the slightest so why would anyone be pressed about that little insignificant detail?” bias
