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A sensitive question

I deal with a lot of suic**** tendencies. Well that's how f*cked up my head is. But it's because I feel it's the easiest way out of the pain. I'm battling the thought everyday. Somedays easier while some make it hard for me.

So my question is this actually. How would you deal with a coworker who talks about this at work as a joke. For instance if shit gets hard, she will state she wants to do it. I can sense she's fooling around. She'll be like I'll do it and my husband will suffer with the kids.

But why would a person make jokes on a subject like that?

It's annoying and I get pissed off. Idk why do people consider this a joke in the first place. Is it normal or am I overthinking this?
ddmagnum · 31-35, M Best Comment
Unfortunately my friend it is the millenial mentality, my entire crew is the exact same way, and i have those thoughts too, ive got scenarios when its my time to go, but i shrug it off but i have a different mindset about the "other" people, let them destroy themselves, they also wont understand us so no point in getting defeated by it, the wolf does not concern itself with the opinions of sheep.

SW-User
I honestly think that's her way to prevent herself from actually doing it. She advertises for the dark idea that goes through her head in a joking manner so that she gets it out of her mind. It can lessen the impact it has on her by having the others chime in and remind her how crazy that sounds whether directly or indirectly. Even laughing along can low-key signal to her that she's going overboard bc otherwise it wouldn't trigger a reaction from those surrounding her in the first place. I think she needs help herself, even though she comes across as insensitive. She might be trying to sensitize herself by saying her thoughts out loud and hearing them at the expense of the others, who she uses to keep herself on the ground.
SW-User
I'm not known for being tactful. I'd probably sternly tell her off especially what with her being a mother and all, then drive myself nuts with guilt fearing my words could set her off and have her go through with it.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@SW-User This is what crossed my mind when she said that.

I know people who lost parents including myself. It's not easy. It's not a joke to be said. You never know what could happen the next minute. Why spend your days joking about killing yourself then.
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
I don’t think it’s a joke I just think she’s playing it off as a joke. People use humor as a coping mechanism.

especially considering the things she says following it
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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@DeluxedEdition I will.

She is a weird person and very hard to deal with. I will be vocal with my opinion the next time with her.
10liters · 31-35, M
@DeluxedEdition when i get hurt I laugh instead of showing im in pain..is this normal?..i could literally cut my finger to the bone and laugh about it 😅
TheDisciplinarian · 61-69, M
Those that say that
Can actually be Crying out for Help

And or are Calis in Not Considering other people
For its Not at All Funny

I Called the Cops once on One such Person
Its Not Worth finding out After

Oh..they Actually Meant it
How was i to Know

And if a Joke
No way they would Pull it Again
Gangstress · 41-45, F
The sad thing is. I found my colleague who committed suicide at work. I knew she was depressed but i didnt know the extent.
I think it could be a cry for help or for attention
Anybody i know that has gone through suicide rarely talk about it out loud
SW-User
Seems like she is joking ..
I tend to joke about things many may be offended by
..I'm not saying it's right or justfied but if it really bothers you thrn say something
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@SW-User I don't know if I should help her or walk off. It's so confusing now.
SW-User
@Beatbox34 You should do what is best for you
JestAJester · 31-35, M
I do it all the time. Sometimes coworkers get mad at me. I making fun of myself and people get offended on my behalf, that is truly bizarre
pride49 · 31-35, M
Prolly want attention cause they feel alone all the time, even at home
Wiseacre · F
Attention getter!
For some people that’s "whistling in the graveyard" and they’re just venting. But there’s no way to know. I would ask them, "Are you okay ? Do you need help ?" every time they made such a joke, because people who are really okay don’t need to joke about that sort of thing. In 2005, a colleague jumped from the 16th floor of a building adjacent to ours during her lunch break. The only thing she said before going out was, "I’m sick of this."
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard I know the feeling. I'm sorry that happened.

It could indeed be a cry for help.

 
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