Why does life have to be like this?

in my life travelling has been a good part of what made me develop a skill at meeting people. I almost always travel alone and I go to backpaker hotels from the lonely planet books (or the french equivalent). in these places are other travelers anll eager to interact with other backpackers. if that's not your scene there are other touristy activities . at home volunteering or joining groups that do activities is also a way. when i travel I meet like 10 or 20 people every day , no metter where I am i just talk with whoever is there. and when I'm not traveling i just continue to just talk with people all over the place. you don't "look for friends" , you talk and interact with everyone and sometimes , some of them become friends.

you're not alone, I'm alone 24/7 I'm still waking up crying at nights.. process of dealing with a breakup I ended.. I'm gonna be alone for a long time bc I feel like I'll never find my person or that he exists.... But I'm not looking for hoping to find happiness, I jus have fate the universe will make this happen for all of us...

I've learned to be comfortable alone rather than being lonely. It has its advantages but it's difficult to let anyone in. Because being comfortable alone means I'm in control of my space and negativity is at bay.

Rather thought provoking question. People group themselves together either because of similar interest or what they can get from you. The bottom line I pretty much this : If you're not attractive looking or interesting enough, people don't want anything to do with you. I am 58 years old and I can speak from a lifetime of experience on this. That being said, you can reinvent yourself, discover new things, explore new interests, etc.

Can't help you solve the loneliness but I can relate completely. I lost my person and have been alone in grief since the day she passed. Grief and loneliness together are an awful combination. At my age I accept it. But at your age I do hope you find your person. Not everyone does but it's a gift in life that's more fulfilling than anything.

I am sorry you feel this way. I feel you. I have recently taken up traveling. I go solo. I don’t drive so I take really long train rides. I am going to make it a monthly thing. Gives me something to look forward to.

That is a very good question.

Personally, I have never been good at making friends. I often feel lonely too.

I don't know about others but I am lonely because of my trust issues and paranoias.

You would be surprised how many people have no friends at all. They just hide it.

I feel the same. Even if i find people, they lose interest or gh0st lol.

I wonder the same thing sometimes

There would seem to be a correlation between loneliness and the degree to which we're being controlled. Lonely people are those who have lost connection with themselves, and so, each other. Being out of connection with ourselves is something which is highly promoted by those in power. People aren't in a place with themselves to be able to connect with each other. The ability is still there, but their attention has been diverted and channeled into other things, and fears. I think this is one reason it's so much harder to find friends these days.

We are facing the wrath of God (the almighty creator branded as SEX and put to shame) due to the divide and rule policy deep rooted in our society and culture.

This is where all of the age old religions, scriptures and politics has brought us to this shameful state. if we are struggling at this age in our 40+ , imagine the plight 5 10 years down the line.

Each of us are one part ridiculing and judging the other during our prime only to end up being shunned and secluding ourself.

Just not one is able to trust another or come to an agreement.

True, if u haven't made friends in younger yrs it's harder later on. But ur still young... so shouldn't be a problem.

Life can be hard and being loner is harder. Hope you find some friends

People have forgotten how to communicate efficiently and freely. Also, it's uncool to express anymore

Did posting this help? Did you get responses that you really liked?

1. You have to present where there are more possibilities for you to find like minded people. You can try platform like meetup.com
2. Don't expect a perfect friend. No one is good or bad, everyone is oscillating between the two.
3. Adapt yourself to accept wide range of people. A relationship is about two things, appreciating the similarities and respecting the differences.

Best Wishes :)

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This is easily resolved, get yourself a really cute dog, and every day walk him to the off-leash dog park to play with all of the other dogs. You will instantly have tons of friends. Something nice, like a lab, or a golden, or maybe a samoyed, or go big with a newfoundlander. Dogs are humans best friends.

I feel that n my soul… hugs my friend

Hard 4 me too irl to make friends

Sending a huge ghost hug out to you.

To much distrust of others.

Was walking around a park attempting to figure out where the fireworks were going to go off. A lady walking perpendicular to me yells: why are you following me around?

I said nothing knowing, I was already walking away from her.

What about when your favorite friend is someone you'll barely ever spend time with?

I guess it depends on how much intent you have on really making friends.

Jon a relevant clube or participate in events.

They did that with covid pandemic to divide and conquer us

Just be yourself

The right people will love you for it

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I agree on the last part, I was most social in high school after that my desire to be social wandered off..