Have you ever stepped back and evaluated your life situation

I hit a wall in my early 40s and had to figure myself out. In short, my raw materials combined with my upbringing created a person who finds it difficult to feel comfortable, safe, or welcome in the company of others. As a result, I prefer to go unnoticed, which has always held me back, and I’ve invariably gravitated toward partners who will settle for me but disregard me to some degree because I can’t bear the focus of someone who truly wants to connect with me. In the end, I most long for the things I can least tolerate so I make the most of what I can and try to make a point of testing the limits of my comfort zone as I’m able. I build on silver linings.

I have done that yes.
My job was hot, loud & dirty.
My vehicle has definitely seen better days.
My rent is high considering the conditions of my apartment.
But....
My raggedy vehicle gets me to that dirty job that pays for my home.
And I am blessed.

I have been through that, and at times still find myself up in my head. I think a perfect life is a pipe dream. Take toll of what you have and what you can change, make a decision to either go ahead with what you have or up end your life and change it. Don’t want to wonder one day “what if?”

Because I'm afraid to risk more.
Because I often go out of my way to avoid people and make choices in life that minimize having to deal with people.
Because I have many fleeting interests that I never dared to try to monetize or just didn't want to monetize them at all.
Because I'm often stubborn in wanting to do stuff my way and for the sake of doing it, not for the results.
Because of some personal problem I'm not going to talk about.

Yes.
I realized I was always trying to force myself to fit into the wrong spaces.
I took on a parents' trauma and in doing so was ignoring a large part of my identity and certain responsibilities that came with it.

Yes, I did at around 47 years old and I realized I was the creator of my own mess.
I read a book writen by Joco Wllink and it totally changed the way I saw things.

All of those questions you asked about happiness outside of yourself , is already there without looking.
The problem is that your afraid you can't be happy without none of those .
It's a huge psychological thought process and after going through some pain and coming out the other side , you" ll say to yourself" what did I go through all that for " 😂😂😂.
There be another question 😂😂😂😊🙂😊

Sure once or twice i guess. Long ago had a job, a girlfriend, and a business that were all going nowhere. Took a little time to come to grips but did hit a reset on all three at pretty much the same time. I didn't regret it.

Yes, I have done occasional situation analyses, usually job-related. A few times, I decided to make radical changes. Other times, I stayed put for a while longer. I don't believe I made any wrong major life decisions.

yes I did/have been doing for several years and all my problems pointed to the same thing.

I read up and try to change my thought process. There are a lot of things we don't know about our minds and it's eye opening

No, I think I know where I'm at - but that being said, it's probably not a bad idea for me to try this...

Absolutely.And that is why I have made modifications to my circle and the way I move

A hand full of times actually. Right now I am currently going through one of those seasons in my life. We are going through some difficulties from my wife's health to our business.

driving home from work. watched a pedestrian get hit by a car. I didn't blink. i felt nothing. that's when i knew i was in a death spiral and needed help. quit my white collar job. got a quick (expensive) divorce. entered therapy for depression anxiety disorders. retrained as a millwright. started my own metal fabrication business. took 8 more years to pay off my debts and get back on my feet. I've never been happier.