Have you ever stepped back and evaluated your life situation

To figure out why you weren’t happy?
Working a job you didn’t like or were unemployed.
In an unhealthy relationship or alone.
Why your goals always seemed out of reach.

What answers did you come up with, I’m genuinely curious.

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JustNik · 51-55, F

I hit a wall in my early 40s and had to figure myself out. In short, my raw materials combined with my upbringing created a person who finds it difficult to feel comfortable, safe, or welcome in the company of others. As a result, I prefer to go unnoticed, which has always held me back, and I’ve invariably gravitated toward partners who will settle for me but disregard me to some degree because I can’t bear the focus of someone who truly wants to connect with me. In the end, I most long for the things I can least tolerate so I make the most of what I can and try to make a point of testing the limits of my comfort zone as I’m able. I build on silver linings.

tenente · 36-40, M

@JustNik you're so awesome 🤗

Ghostinthemachine · M

@JustNik Longing for the thing that you can least tolerate seems like quite the dilemma. And recognizing this does not alleviate the situation?
Perhaps this is why you are here, connection with others, at a distance.

JustNik · 51-55, F

@Ghostinthemachine No it doesn’t alleviate it. It is apparently woven into my fabric. Here I can admire and enjoy and speak and be inspired and never really lose that invisibility that allows me to do so. It may not sound ideal, but it has benefited me greatly over the years. 🙂

Ghostinthemachine · M

@JustNik As long as it works for you .
And you have never been invisible here, to my eyes 👀🙂