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What is a painful aspect of your life that you've come to terms with?

How did you cope with it?

That my marriage is over and can’t be saved.I grieved it a lot, then had every emotion from anger to peace, broke my heart, I also did a lot of research to help me. I’m in a much better place now. So much stronger 💪🏻

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Fairydust · F

@uncalled4 aw I’m good thanks, still need a divorce, what with Covid and didn’t feel ready to take the next step.
It’s definitely better and way less painful leaving than staying. 🌈😌

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Fairydust Your future will be much better and I wish you the best 🤗

Fairydust · F

@Beatbox34 thank you! You too 🥰🤗🌸

Coralmist · 41-45, F

That my near zero self esteem came from chaos and violence during my childhood. That I didn't get to BE A CHILD...I have made many strides in accepting it. But it's hard changing a foundation where you feel you're nothing, to now trying to get and identify my adult needs. I'm determined though.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Beatbox34 Exactly. I get so nervous that I'm simply not enough for someone BECAUSE of my past, the trauma etc. And I reject people s interest in me out of fear I'm not enough. If we could know they'd fully like it accept us, I'd feel so much more open and maybe even truly experience love too. 😟

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Coralmist In time maybe we'll find the right people. You're an amazing person. I just hope you know that 🤗🤗

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Beatbox34 Thank you, truly🌸

Tonydang · M

Being diagnosed with cancer 13 months ago life changed overnight still fighting it refusing to give up done 3 months of chemo 3 months of radiation therapy had my surgery tomorrow I start my second bout of chemo for 3 months again life has dramatically changed over night

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Tonydang I'm sorry my man. I really am 🤗. It will get better for you and I'll keep you in my prayers.

Tonydang · M

@Beatbox34 thank you very much I really appreciate it mate I just take it day by day

Miram · 31-35, F

Being born with a heart defect. I haven't made peace with the reason but have lead an ordinary life with few obstacles.

Bang5luts · M

@Miram I have one as well. They aren't certain if it's congenial or not in my case. It's a scary feeling. Much respect.. 😊

Miram · 31-35, F

@Bang5luts My fear is usually expressed through anger . Having to constantly make final plans whenever it gets bad is the difficult aspect. Respect to you too and hugs.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@Miram 🤗🤗🤗

bijouxbroussard · F

Not having any children. 😞

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Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@geoam1 I'm really sorry for your loss 🤗

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WonderGirl1

I was diagnosed with a terrible illness 6 years ago. At first, I was angry. It consumed me. Over time with treatments I came to accept it. Now I have bouts of depression but I'm not sure if it's from that or something else.

I was assaulted. I'm still trying to come to terms with it.

SubstantialKick · 31-35, M

I may be single forever.

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quitwhendone · M

@SubstantialKick I usually hear women saying that.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@AiKillsPedophiles I just learnt that chasing meant nothing. If it's meant to happen let it but I could make myself a better person than be butt hurt over it.

CestManan · 46-50, F

@Beatbox34 and @SubstantialKick for that matter -

You do realize that relationships are more trouble than they are worth, right? Oh yes they start out great but that is very fleeting.

After that, partners start to think they can talk to each other any ol nasty way, sex with them eventually becomes a disgusting chore.

Plus what happens the day their ex tries to get back with them? The same one that didn't work out the last five times but THIS time it might.

AND - if you cannot find some lover, that means you are not paying child support nor putting up with some screaming little brat.

Relationships are no picnic once that brief honeymoon phase wears off.

LadyJ · F

Losing both my parents..Realising i was never going to see them again in this life was hard to cope with..counselling and making new memories with friends & family helped

SW-User

That I’ll never find love again or have a family of my own.
I’ve come to terms that my life was meant to be a fight without love.

SW-User

@SW-User love is not exclusive to romantic relationships but I feel ya

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@SW-User I can relate to it but you could channel it elsewhere. It helps lessen the pain.

SW-User

I'm working on it, im still not fully there yet. I still have a lot of resentment and bitterness inside

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@SW-User It takes time man. We'll all get there and I believe in you dude.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

My divorce, nearly 20 years ago now. What hurt like hell was not losing the marriage but that human connection--she was my best friend--and to get through it absolutely required brass balls. Apparently, I have them.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@uncalled4 You are indeed strong my friend 🤗

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Beatbox34 Thank you, sir.

katiecantthinkofausername · 22-25, F

why are people laughing at this post?

AiKillsPedophiles · 100+, M

@katiecantthinkofausername it may be accidental, I hope.

katiecantthinkofausername · 22-25, F

@AiKillsPedophiles i hope so too

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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

Good god so many to sit here and list

Iwillwait · M

I am always struggling with inadequacy and feeling > than.

The facades I put up, are shields that veneer my flaws I so desperately try to hide.

The flaws themselves are the very thing I am having to come to terms with.

toddr13 · 46-50, M

Came to terms with abuse, not from a family member, but a trusted pro coach, aided when his lifestyle brought about an early grave from a massive heart attack.

Soossie

Forgiving the dearest person in my life...

SW-User

I'm going to spend the rest of my life without a partner. It's not the worst, just something I hadn't planned on. Family is great. A partner is a whole different thing though.
I think most of us just learn to accept and deal with the hardships we are given in life.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@SW-User I'm genuinely sorry for your loss. I feel sometimes we wish things to happen a certain way but it's not always the case 🤗🤗🤗

ScrewThisImDone · 26-30, F

That I'll likely never have a relationship because I'm asexual and don't want children.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@ScrewThisImDone I may never have too. Idk I just don't want to pass a genetic defect.

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Thevy29 · 41-45, M

My back.. Still hurts like a mtherfker though.

Bang5luts · M

My username probably not the wisest choice.. 😣😂

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Bang5luts · M

@Beatbox34 good idea!

SW-User

@Bang5luts you could probably change it

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Bang5luts I just think of you as a guy that likes to bang sluts, honestly.

ABCDEF7 · M

As long as we are looking to find happiness in others we are at the risk sorrows. Actually it's in your hands to be happy or sad. Although it's not east, but it's better to find happiness in yourself than with others.

SW-User

All sorts 🖤

TheLordOfHell · 41-45

Took some time. But here I am!

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Chronic pain and illness. Just learning to live with it.

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