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my boyfriend was honest to me.

He told me he had a feeling or lust for this girl while they were away for a week with church members. He said nothing happened because everytime, there seems to be stopping it. I asked him what if nothing stopped it? Well, i guess they'll DO it. Should i trust him? He said, he made a mistake to be weak by that time and that he loves me.because a feeling with lust is not love, and that's what he had with that girl. Should i trust him?
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Itsprincess · 26-30, F
He told you so that makes him trustworthy
Calmsoul · 31-35, M
Have faith on him , pain is a temporary thing but relationship is permanent
cappuccino · 31-35, F
Calmsoul thank you. I guess it'll be a hardwork of healing process. Sometimes keeping strong to stay in the relationship is hard when you remember the pain. I hope I'll get over soon. :)
Madelenie · 26-30, F
Yeah you should you have to. Because when a boy be honest and confesses that means he's worth trusting. If he's not being trusted he might become not trustworthy. It's by my experience...:(
Itsprincess · 26-30, F
@calmsoul I never said all men are like that. I just said depends on how smart they are. A lot of things about my boyfriend (like his pick up artist tricks) could of told me that he was lying and he was mean to me often but I just trusted too easily
Bluesky52 · 61-69, M
actually,agree with Itsprincess,he was honest,he's worth a chance,
Calmsoul · 31-35, M
He is an honest man !!so definitely yes you should
Madelenie · 26-30, F
@itsprincess like the normal pictures?
SW-User
I don't know? Is he willing to place some boundaries in that area?
Everyone is tempted to do wrong, it is what you are willing to commit to that makes the difference.
Northwest · M
What kind of church is this? Temptation is out there 24/7. I suspect that he told you, because he feels "religious" guilt, with the whole lust thing. 40 years ago, Jimmy Carter, the candidate for presidency of the US, told an interviewer (Playboy Magazine, when it actually did reasonable journalistic work), that he had felt lust in his heart.

On the worrying scale, I would put his Church higher than hormones.
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I'm with itsprincess. The fact he's telling you as much makes me suspicious.

I think full trust is a fairy tale. In my 15 years of marriage, I can answer my wife that I have never physically, photographically, or sextually cheated on my wife. But if she would ask if I emotionally cheated on her... I would have to admit it. And I could probably never stop.
Calmsoul · 31-35, M
@princess You see that's the problem !! You have your experience but that doesn't mean that every boy will be that smart or a cheat !!
SW-User
Thwt right there is a sign of maybe you two need to take a break from one another . You are both young and have time to figure things out .
SW-User
I think it's interesting that he told you about it. I would not tell my wife I met an interesting woman on a trip.
Itsprincess · 26-30, F
@calmsoul I've never let it ruin my trust though? @lvchris thanks :) I get what you mean
Calmsoul · 31-35, M
@princess i understand that !! I am nobody to you to say this but i still will never let your ability to trust others die just cause of one bad relationship !!
Itsprincess · 26-30, F
No actually im gonna change my answer. My ex was apparently 'honest' too. It all depends on how smart your ex is. Mine was extremely smart, and he told me stuff that guys wouldn't tell their exes so that he gave the appearance that he was honest. For example, he told me that he met up with this girl that has a crush on him (he knew I wouldn't like it) and that he had feelings for her but they weren't deep. I was so stupid I was just like 'oh okay at least he was honest and said he'd never meet up with her again'. So then months later despite asking him 'do you get pictures off of girls' and him saying no, I messaged a girl asking her and she said they had sent pictures. He was cheating the whole time
cappuccino · 31-35, F
I'm willing to give it another shot cause of his honesty. But the pain, it keeps coming back.
Itsprincess · 26-30, F
@ssmoothies no nudes
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Ivana · F
&&& yall ask me why i cheat on my bf, NOW YA KNOW, hon even tho he's honest you still cant trust him, being honest is nothing i mean yea he's telling you he's doing it but he cant keep his eyes for u only, id leave, look for a good guy, i mean im sure i have a good guy but i just rather have others "jus in case" i guess its an insecure&fear thing, but just leave him, last thing u wanna hear when the night comes is " i fucked someone else BUT i love ya"
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