what wud u do when u r different and dominated in your family?

How would you live your life if u are dominated, teased and not even given the freedom you desire in a conservative family? i've spent 25 years of my life bound to such rules and not one day goes by when i really wish i could die and be free. Every thing around me irritates me to the core. Nothing i wud do would satisfy them. For them i will always be wrong, my choices are wrong. They want me to live my life according to them. But i wont...in the end i will be free even if i have to choose death. I dont want to be a slave anymore😢

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SW-User

I was in that very same situation. I put up with it for sixty stupid years. When I turned sixty I finally said goodbye. It was hard but I walked away from my dad, brother and sister. I try to rid my life of the negatives and concentrate on positives. My life is so much better. Now when I do something I feel good about it and have people who thank me and truly appreciate me and what I can do.
You are in your twenties. Think of how you have forty more years than I do, you have your whole life ahead of you. Take your life and get away from the assholes that are keeping you down. You can walk away from them. It hurts especially if it's family but you owe it to yourself to enjoy your life and not to exist for them to shit on. Walk Away. It's that easy.

firefall · 61-69, M

60 years of it? I cant even imagine

SW-User

Yea. Such a waste of my life. Constantly the butt of their jokes. Never living up to my dad's stupid standards. A brother that would pick my brain and steal my ideas and plans in construction and then put me down. I was so stupid for waiting so long. When I dumped them, it was like instantly I could breathe and I have had seven good years since. No regrets that they no longer rule my life

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firefall · 61-69, M

While I can empathise with wanting to visit some retribution, from my observations (a) they never learn anyway, to be like that is to be firmly stuck in a pattern of behaviour; and (b) it's not worth your effort as it keeps you focussed on them, not yourself.

SW-User

Getting revenge on them puts you down to their level. Two wrongs never make a right.

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buttercup97

I really can relate to you. But only by my dad. I know how hard it is to be dictated by someone. I'm turning 19 but my dad still doesn't allow me to do everything I want for myself. Still blessed to have a very supportive mother and siblings. But I love him. I know someday you will have the freedom you've been longing for. Hoping the same for me. Hugs!

eccentricgal · 31-35, F

HUGS 😘

ReaperofTime · 46-50, M

Death is NOT the answer Neither is submission I come from a family that judges by money and College , I ahve neither and am very happy I just quit worrying about it all together and told them off Years went by but now that I have done ok they respect me

livesincar · 41-45, M

people are ignorant. same thing doesnt work for everybody. people raised to believe what they want you to. but what they believe is not what they know. you should bend your beliefs to fit reality, not try to bend reality to fit your belifs. people can be to religious and or conservative and end up doing stupid hurtfull things that are even discouraged by their own beliefs. they were gonna kill copernicus for being smart enough to build a telescope and see that not everything orbited the earth. "the universe can indeed be discovered by thought alone,as the ancients dreamed." albert einstein

firefall · 61-69, M

Leave! Cut them out of your life, move elsewhere if you need to. Families like that are toxic, there's no remedying them other than isolating them from you. Don't kill yourself, there's a whole wide world where they aren't, can't reach.

Heydd

Its happening to me but there is a solution . Go to a long vacation and make them miss you . When you go back you will dominate . But you can't stay long with them . You have to travel back again ...

eccentricgal · 31-35, F

jus looking for a way

lorne13 · 61-69, M

run

SW-User

Is there the possibility of you leaving home?

eccentricgal · 31-35, F

not yet

SW-User

Be strong until you're able to leave home. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but give yourself the chance to be happy do not think of suicide as the solution. Try to make your life happen

firefall · 61-69, M

No matter how hard it might seem, leaving, running away, is better than killing yourself. Even if you live on the street - you can always kill yourself later after all, but it's such an irrevocable step, better to try the alternatives first.

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