It is ok for anyone to appreciate beauty or handsomeness..

I cannot judge anyone on this, but in my opinion, having a cruch is incontrolable and it should be ok as long as you keep it as a crush only and only to yourself....

My boss flirts with guys and she is married lol I think it’s normal 🤷‍♀️

Depends on marriage type and complications really.. there is no scope for extra marital at all if a woman or a man is happy with his or her partner

You can have a crush, doesn’t mean to say you’re going to act upon it

Nope. Married or not, you can't stop who you develop an attraction to. It's an entirely different matter to act upon those feelings though. That should always be done with the consent, and understanding of one's partner. And if that's not possible, then stick to the "look but don't touch" rule.

Nooe

Not "wrong" in the moral sense.
Several changes could occur.
- She takes no action, eventually gets to know the coworker better (through the daily working processes, discovers her crush is not what she first imagined, and loses interest.
- She tries to initiate an affair and discovers her crush is not interested.
- She initiates, the crush accepts, they have an affair and it soon falls apart.
- She tells her husband. They divorce. She initiates, then discovers it was all a huge mistake and ends it.
- She doesn't tell her husband, initiates, the new lover turns out to be far better on every level (so far). She tells her husband or he finds out and they divorce.
- She tells her husband. He gets furious, but then they work out why she has those feelings, and they find a way to meet her needs for love (perhaps more romance/variety/better foreplay/more intimate communication of feelings/more quality time together, etc). She loses interest in the crush and their marriage improves.
- If the married couple already has kids, that complicates things and introduces more factors that could change the outcomes.

Moral of the story:
it's not the feelings that create the problems; it's what we choose to do about the feelings.

I'd say that's between the two married people. Everyone defines their sexuality, boundaries and agreements differently.

Flirtation is simply another form of communication. it makes no promises, demands nothing. It's simply a way to flatter and be flattered, and it occurs in some form another between all kinds of people.

I don't believe anyone can control their feelings for another. One can stay true to their boundaries, but it's important to understand and respect that not everyone's boundaries are the same.

Doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat your meals at home!

If you're attracted, you're attracted. It's what you do with that feeling is important.

It happens. Nothing wrong with that.

There’s a difference between finding someone attractive and having feelings for them. If a married person finds someone else attractive I see no problem. But if they’re starting to act on it then yes it’s a problem.

We can't control who we get a crush on. It's how we react to that crush. Even a married women could follow through if her marriage was not up to par

[b]Let me translate this[/b]- Do you think for a human being with a spectrum of emotions, that's in a socially constructed unity to feel an emotion and have natural bodily and mental reactions to outside stimulus which happens to be someone she frequently encounters?

Not at all ,, life to short not to enjoy a good crush now and then ,,

Sure. I love them. A little harmless spark in the day so long as everyone acts like an adult.

Just plain stupid and will lead to sexual harassment in the workforce

Sometimes that can’t be helped but what would be wrong is if she acted on it

natural i think

do you want to act on it? do youo want to sneak around, and hope it does not get out?
is the attractions enough for you to deal with what might come?
Sometimes a crush is just that, a moment of Limerence let i cook a while.
if you dont act, it might be the best

Right or Wrong is up to the individual
how does it feel, "in your gut"

It would be wrong to act on it

I think we all have them

It happens....

ya can't really control your crushes, now can you? just your actions

I guess we are all only human, however to take it further, unless you are in an open relationship, now that would be wrong because it involves dishonesty

No nothing is wrong. Love/ Liking is never wrong, its the jealousy that is wrong. Its the fear that makes us think its wrong. Its all good if no one is hurt

What about a married man having a crush on a coworker?

When I’m in love with a man, I don’t even notice other guys. It’s like they don’t exist, at least in a romantic way.

I've had at least 3 crushes on co-workers over the years

And yet, in my life, I've only ever slept with my wife...

Crushes are just thoughts. As long as they don't affect your real relationships, no problem.

its very natural

Wrong implies a moral decision...a crush is what you're feeling...

I don't think so as long as it doesn't go beyond boundaries.

My wife has had sex with a coworker

It's not wrong for a woman to have a crush on someone else. It's only wrong to act on it.

yes but it happens… human nature but it will pass if they ignore it and not act on it.

It is not necessarily wrong if you can do it secretly and nobody else is affected by it. It would have to be very carefully planned. Also, is the affair going to be a one time sexual encounter or a long term affair. Is the affair going to be just physical without either person falling in love with the other person. So once it has been carefully planned, enjoy it. 😜

Not really I had a married woman flirt and have a crush on me. I had one on her

Not at all. You can’t help who you crush over

Not as long as they keep it to themselves.

It’s normal, it’s weather you act on that feeling

Happens to both girls and guys

I have in the past

It's human nature

A crush is an emotional response. You got to have those. The question is do act upon that crush . If you don’t, it is likely to diminish
But if you fantasize about it, you may find yourself in trouble

How can anyone control having a crush on someone?
What may become wrong is acting on that crush(es) without letting your partner know.

Better to do it in an arrangement with your husband.