What is your opinion?

So, it's been a month since I saw this guy I really liked, he gave me a ride to go to a church group meeting, I was in a bad mood since I was tired, sick with a cold, not only that, but he didn't open the door for me of his car so it made me upset. After the meeting a felt great, filled with joy and God's presence. So we were heading back and I decided to talk to him, asking him why he has changed if everything is still the same, he told me he likes me, it's just that he is busier with work and not only that, he fears to get into something serious. He says he does want something to happen at the same time not, fearing something will go wrong. I told him I understand and that he should figure out what he wants and trust God. So we were close to my home and I brought him a gift from the country I visited for a month, he said thank you and gave me a long hug, and then all of a sudden we kissed, it wasn't planned, it was unexpected. I don't regret it, he doesn't either but we both agreed that we don't want to rush anything. We want to get to know eachother more and see how it goes, but the kiss just happened. I don't feel bad, I am happy it happened, but is there anything wrong with what happened?

sogdianrock · 61-69, M

hi hopeespe
wrong is culturally relative. Your culture has its own norms and you know them best. That you feel the need to ask if anything is wrong suggests you have challenged a cultural norm of your own culture. Relatively speaking you are in a better position to judge - however you mention God and church and so reading between the lines you may have a sense of generalised guilt inculcated in your culture. If so pretty much everything may be tinged with self doubt and guilt.
You are of course free to explore different cultures with different norms.
Best wishes
:)

Ynotisay · M

@hopeespe If I may jump in here uninvited...while I can't speak for her I think what she said actually DID have relation to what you said.

When I saw that my first thought was, "This person thinks too much and has expectations that, if not reached, will make her question everything."

So since she's a bit older than you, and I'm a bit older then her, the takeaway might be...just let things happen. You can't control things you can't control. Either adapt and choose your battles or come up short on all your relationships in the future.

SW-User

@hopeespe just bear in mind that others weren't raised with such high standards so don't take it personally if they miss things out sometimes.