What is your opinion?

So, it's been a month since I saw this guy I really liked, he gave me a ride to go to a church group meeting, I was in a bad mood since I was tired, sick with a cold, not only that, but he didn't open the door for me of his car so it made me upset. After the meeting a felt great, filled with joy and God's presence. So we were heading back and I decided to talk to him, asking him why he has changed if everything is still the same, he told me he likes me, it's just that he is busier with work and not only that, he fears to get into something serious. He says he does want something to happen at the same time not, fearing something will go wrong. I told him I understand and that he should figure out what he wants and trust God. So we were close to my home and I brought him a gift from the country I visited for a month, he said thank you and gave me a long hug, and then all of a sudden we kissed, it wasn't planned, it was unexpected. I don't regret it, he doesn't either but we both agreed that we don't want to rush anything. We want to get to know eachother more and see how it goes, but the kiss just happened. I don't feel bad, I am happy it happened, but is there anything wrong with what happened?

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WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

You got upset he didn't open the door..

hopeespe · 26-30, F

@WanderLustChick I didn't call him up, he usually does, also my parents were there and they are traditionalist.

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Ynotisay · M

@WanderLustChick You pretty much summed it up right there.

WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

@Ynotisay lmao it's so petty and ridiculous.

hopeespe · 26-30, F

@WanderLustChick It isn't petty, It was concern of change since he usually does it and he has changed a bit as in he used to be sweet and he isn't much anymore, it all sums up to why I had doubt before.

WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

@hopeespe people get tired people feel sick people just don't feel like doing things all the time. I mean if you need your significant other to do those things without fault let them know but we are human jeez settle down

hopeespe · 26-30, F

@WanderLustChick I think you are exaggerating the term "upset." It's not like I became crazily angry. It was more of an observation that didn't made me happy. Ofcourse we are human. I didn't call him out on it.

WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

@hopeespe I've exaggerated the term upset..lol

hopeespe · 26-30, F

@WanderLustChick There is no need of your negative comments. It's very ironic you are calling me petty. I posted something that I want to share and receive opinions, of course I can't stop negative opinions like yours to come, but please respect the next person.

WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

@hopeespe you post to get opinions. Your getting them the positive and the negative.

hopeespe · 26-30, F

@WanderLustChick Over what happned, but you weren't even broad on the idea, you went straight to an specific that had no relation to what I have asked.

WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

If it has no relation to what your question was why put it in there? Listen I honestly don't give a shit I just think it's ridiculous how such a thing could make you question a person's caring for you. It's a door you got hands use them better yet pray for the door to open that might work better.

Ynotisay · M

@hopeespe If I may jump in here uninvited...while I can't speak for her I think what she said actually DID have relation to what you said.

When I saw that my first thought was, "This person thinks too much and has expectations that, if not reached, will make her question everything."

So since she's a bit older than you, and I'm a bit older then her, the takeaway might be...just let things happen. You can't control things you can't control. Either adapt and choose your battles or come up short on all your relationships in the future.

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@Ynotisay I agree, high expectations usually lead to disappointment.

WanderLustChick · 31-35, F

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