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Do you feel good about yourself?

To those that do...how did you come to feel good about yourself?
What are the advantages o f feeling good about Yourself?💕
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F Best Comment
I do for the most part. There's always room for improvement, learning and experience.

For most my life I struggled with suicidal thoughts and self harm. I didn't feel like I mattered at all.

What eventually broke me out of it was frustration. I was sick of people telling me there's something wrong with me. I realized I got through my past traumas, all of it, alone. I embraced alone and did brave, kind of outrageous, things that I wanted to do. The process was equal parts pure joy and misery. So I started looking more into what caused my misery. Over half of SW has blocked me or hates me for what I shared on here. But I talked about it. I vented, I ranted, I learned to shove away the people that's got off being mean to me for sharing my feelings. I was accused of being negative and bad energy but I refused to accept that what happened in my life needed to be labeled bad or negative. How could it when it made me who I am. Because in that dark and so called negativity existed a sweetness and truth that deserved to be acknowledged for once.

We survived. And came out sensitive and kind. But with a lot of fears. I face those fears one by one. I still have more to go. But as far as what concerns me and my inner world, I feel good about who I am, considering of course what I've been through. I can't compare myself to someone who has family and friends, or whatever I was/am missing. Nobody should really compare or judge at all because we have no clue what someone has been through or is going through. I try to give that to others and myself too.

I treat myself like a friend, like family. I take 'er easy on myself.

And I don't focus on only the positive and good as if it's the way out of my pain or my past. I allow the darkness it's space. It's not going to go away. And I like it sometimes. It's mischievous and funny and highly intuitive.

I think part of being verbally abused is choking back your instincts. You know to keep it down or else you won't be loved. But that part deserved love too. All of you does.

So I give myself all that love now. My son played and still plays a big role in my healing by simply existing.

I don't like myself enough to develop an ego, therefore not many people like me. People have to read enough into me to see passed the raw, icky parts. Or whatever they see. So I know I'll never be remembered as a well liked person. But some people are right there with me, or at least accept me, it's just a big fear to let someone in. I have to work on that eventually. That's probably one of the few things I don't like about myself. So awkward.

You do little bits at a time. Eventually the diligent hard work produces change. In the end, it feels more real than just trying to make it appear okay.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@AlchemyFox Ty so much for such a reflective reply. 🦋 I think its rude of people to put others down for sharing something negative they have been through. That is part of our LIFE. How insensitive can you be to act like you could never even HEAR someone share something that wasn't pleasant for them? My family member actually told my sister they wouldn't even be around her because she shared ONCE about her illness. They are a mean narcissist though so she has finally gotten over how awful they were.
You are not awkward!! You are sharing things in your life and THAT is being AUTHENTIC!!
I don't feel good about me because even though yes Im patient and giving..My past was so horrible that it shaped me into a shy VERY fearful person. I have severe PTSD and its hard to put myself out there when I can't even do normal things. People do look down on it. I am working tirelessly though on feeling good of WHO i am..not what I may look like on the outside (shy...small).
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
@Coralmist Sweet lady I feel like half or more of the battle with PTSD is convincing everyone around you it's not there. Feeling shame for feeling...

I'm very grateful for you and my buddies here that accept me and relate in their own way. If it weren't for y'all I wouldn't know I was allowed to exist and be messed up. And maybe the people that were cruel helped me learn to say, no fek you 😂

You know I always have and always will believe in you. You were hurt deeply and the fact you're still on the mission of you, shows you are strong and facing your fears. I wish it didn't have to hurt so much, but you persist, and you'll be such an awesome you. A you that wouldn't be as awesome if hadn't hurt so much 🖤🖤🖤
Coralmist · 41-45, F
Thank you so much my friend🫂💜🌺 @AlchemyFox

Matt85 · 36-40, M
Sometimes I do...
I do a lot of affirmation... Complimenting myself basically in my head, including any time I have negative thoughts about myself.
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
Currently I sure don't 😒
TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M
@LilPrincess Because of what you shared or other matters?
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
@TheOthetAcc that does factor in to it plus the fact that I am sick makes me a little over emotional
Umile · 41-45, F
Somewhat.

My soul could be better, but it's going in the right direction, I feel.

I'm doing me as best as I can.

And if anyone has a problem with it, they can go talk to themselves.

I'm not Burger King.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I find if I don't think too much about myself then I don't have the bad feelings about myself.
Some people are going to not agree with this, but I believe thinking too much about oneself is pretty boring.
I can't seem to believe that it's all about me, all about how I feel, all about how I think, and everybody else can just go to blazes, that never makes me feel good.
I guess what has is to be thankful and grateful ;I have a lot to be grateful for.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@Justmeraeagain That is also what makes you a great mother and grandmother. 🤗💝💝💝🤗
wackidywack · 22-25
No, I mean at least not enough
Musicman · 61-69, M
Yes I do! For the most part it really helps me. I don't care what other people think about me or if they even like me. Then there is the downside. My dad had a way of always making me feel inferior and not good enough. So sometimes those feelings creep in and I'll have a bad day. 😢
Convivial · 26-30, F
I think the real question is feeling honest about yourself... And that includes acknowledging the good parts to while recognising those guys that still need work....
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Mentally: yes. Because of all the neat things to learn, and my aptitude for it! 😃

Physically: no. My body is malfunctioning. But we all gotta die someday! 🤪
calicuz · 51-55, M
Yes, I'm aware of everyone and everything around me.
Sevendays · M
Some days yes and some days no. I feel good about what I've accomplished but I have no patience for slackers, Street people, most homeless people. I should do better about that.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Sevendays Often its not slacking that started a path of homelessness..it was often abuse , sometimes mental illness, or drug addiction 😢 It is nice to feel good about your accomplishments.🐞
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