How do you decide to commit to someone? Lately, I just installed a dating app to find someone...

When you meet the right one, so many of those questions fade away and loving them becomes as natural as breathing.

You will know who you want to be close to. You won't want anyone else.

greensnacks · 31-35, F

If you're attracted to her, if you like her personality, and are compatible, commit. And don't have the wandering eye or think about the next best thing.
Relationships take time and being around one another.
It's better to invest in one relationship than to always wonder in shallow meaningless encounters.

4meAndyou · F

First of all, dating app algorithms are a pretty poor way to find someone compatible...but...you never know.

Keep your mind open, meet women, date them, and do NOT view each one as the ONE you are going to marry, because you are likely to find a lot of needy, horrible rejects out there.

Instead, make friends with the woman...(women?)...you genuinely like. THAT is the one element that is KEY. Then, not being creepy or pushy, allow the tender green shoot of that friendship to grow without crushing it with your expectations.

GENUINE feelings might follow.

in10RjFox · M

Cross the bridge when you come to it. You are worrying about retirement even before starting life. The art of dating is in how you make intimate friends without talking about commitment. Any gal asking for a commitment and insisting is insecure and wants to secure you for her need. So be upfront that you are not in a position in life to think of commitment etc.

So first find the one you click with and master the art of getting to sleep with her without any commitment.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

Those feelings are entirely valid. it's very scary getting out there for the first time. It's especially scary to "commit" to a girl knowing your feelings could be either rewarded or shattered.

It's risky.
You could get very hurt.
You should do it :)

People are just people, even if their genders aren't the same. Worth hanging around and experiencing new feelings like connection, vulnerability and intimacy. As well as anxiousness, fear and hurt. It's worth it.

Fertilization · 36-40, F

When you will find the person who is meant for you, no doubts will enter your mind and heart .

carpediem · 61-69, M

You’re overthinking this. Just do what you think is right at the moment. You’ll know.

TrashCat · M

Bro, when it happens you'll know. You're thinking to hard about this. lol

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

My values are quite simple when it comes to that.

I want someone who is loyal, who is honest with me has a good loving and unconditional heart that accepts me good or bad a great sense of humor a spontaneous and playful streak and a good wit as well as a very dirty mind.

And most of all I want someone who is on the same page of commitment and willing to return the effort that I show

Tarnished · 26-30, M

You'll feel it, just gotta hope the feeling is mutual.

Tumbleweed · F

You'll feel it with all your heart & soul

Caleidoscope · F

I guess the first step to commitment is focus on the person you’ve chosen .Try to find out the best and worst aspects of her and see if that matches yours .The maximum number of ✅ will help you decide if she’s the one .

Selah ·

You're not secure in yourself and ready for the responsibility don't bother committing or wasting people's time. Uncertainty is always a bad sign.

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