How do you decide to commit to someone?

Lately, I just installed a dating app to find someone to date and if everything goes well, maybe(?) I’d like to marry her someday. But as soon as I get a match and start chatting with them, these thoughts keep coming back.

I’m a 25-year-old guy, and I’ve never had a girlfriend before. Thoughts like, “Am I ready for this?” “Is she the person I want to commit to?” “What if I meet someone who feels like a better match?” “What if there’s someone prettier who likes me?” and other doubts always pop up whenever I start getting close to a girl.

I’ve always wondered how someone can confidently decide, “Okay, I’m going to commit to this girl.” Is it because they’re genuinely so compatible that it feels right, or do other people also deal with doubts like I do? If they do, how do they overcome it?

OlderSometimesWiser · F

When you meet the right one, so many of those questions fade away and loving them becomes as natural as breathing.

greensnacks · 31-35, F

If you're attracted to her, if you like her personality, and are compatible, commit. And don't have the wandering eye or think about the next best thing.
Relationships take time and being around one another.
It's better to invest in one relationship than to always wonder in shallow meaningless encounters.

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

My values are quite simple when it comes to that.

I want someone who is loyal, who is honest with me has a good loving and unconditional heart that accepts me good or bad a great sense of humor a spontaneous and playful streak and a good wit as well as a very dirty mind.

And most of all I want someone who is on the same page of commitment and willing to return the effort that I show