How do you decide to commit to someone?

Lately, I just installed a dating app to find someone to date and if everything goes well, maybe(?) I’d like to marry her someday. But as soon as I get a match and start chatting with them, these thoughts keep coming back.

I’m a 25-year-old guy, and I’ve never had a girlfriend before. Thoughts like, “Am I ready for this?” “Is she the person I want to commit to?” “What if I meet someone who feels like a better match?” “What if there’s someone prettier who likes me?” and other doubts always pop up whenever I start getting close to a girl.

I’ve always wondered how someone can confidently decide, “Okay, I’m going to commit to this girl.” Is it because they’re genuinely so compatible that it feels right, or do other people also deal with doubts like I do? If they do, how do they overcome it?

in10RjFox · M

Cross the bridge when you come to it. You are worrying about retirement even before starting life. The art of dating is in how you make intimate friends without talking about commitment. Any gal asking for a commitment and insisting is insecure and wants to secure you for her need. So be upfront that you are not in a position in life to think of commitment etc.

So first find the one you click with and master the art of getting to sleep with her without any commitment.