I'm not sure I bring anything meaningful to the table in a potential relationship

As great a person as I am (there doesn't seem to be a way to say that without sounding like a narcissist), but I'm not sure that I offer all that much to a prospective partner. I'm supportive and caring, but that seems like something which people* expect and consider a baseline rather than something worth considering. But then so many seem to get through without that so who tf even knows.

*I'm referring to women because that's who I'm attracted to, but I imagine men are similar.

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brainrapist · 31-35, F

I think @AngelUnforgiven poses a good question when asking what you think you should be bringing to the table. While I do think that things like support, honesty, mutual respect, affection, etc are baseline and to be expected from all partners within any relationship dynamic, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to offer “more”. Communication with any partner or potential partner is super important when it comes to things like this. A lot of people have super unrealistic expectations for relationships, so I think that could be why you’re having these feelings of “I have nothing to bring to the table”. As long as you bring your self, even if it’s not always your best self, and effort, I think that is all someone really needs.