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What would you do in this situation?

You find out after being with your spouse/partner for twenty years that he/she murdered someone when they were 17 and they were never caught. It was not premeditated.

Do you turn him/her in or do you not say anything and keep the secret?

This is the scenario in a book I’m reading right now
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
I would need quite a bit of clarifying information about this. If it wasn't premeditated, why did it happen? What happened to the body? Is it a case of they found the body and the family buried it but are still looking for who killed their relative, or is the body still missing and the family doesn't know what happened to that relative? Did the sumbitka need to get kilt, or was it purely accidental and the victim was just in the wrong place at the wrong time? How much have I come to detest my partner in the past 20 years?

These are all relevant data points.
Depends 🤔 on how things are going in our relationship, if they have been treating me good then 🤐 , but if they had been abusive or just a nightmare to live with then I am telling!

But, on a serious note, depends on the age of the person that was murdered if it was a child I have to tell no matter what the circumstances were.
But, I would need to know more about circumstances...
I will let them know that karma has it's way of working itself out with the need of anyone telling.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
Snitches get stitches!
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Many things to consider. What was the reason he has killed the person? I think that is an important question. Either way, I wouldn't turn him in but I might get away from him.
Depends. If I had spent 20 years with this person, they would have to be nice at heart. They would have to tolerate all the animals I try to bring home.😆 If at any time they were to hurt my pets, they would be gone. If they were anything but kind and caring to my pets, they would be gone. I would want details, but they would already have the benefit of trust having been developed over time.
Honestly, if I had to kill someone, I might be inclined to keep it to myself. If I had to defend myself, and it led to deadly force, I might just fertilize the garden and avoid the whole process.😅🤷‍♂️
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
Definitely not turning them in. I would encourage them to turn their self in, but leave it at that
Poppies · 61-69, F
I don't know. Maybe it depends on what kind of person they've been for the last twenty years.
Ontheroad · M
That is a tough one. I do think if you do the crime, you do the time... generally speaking, but there are sometimes extenuating circumstances.

Given that I was with this person for 20 years and presumably loved them, I'd have to know much more before deciding.

For sure I would face them with it and go from there.
You have to tell the authorities, because you have no idea if the representations of your spouse are real (if he killed someone, you don't know if it was or wasn't premeditated, right? you only know what a killer and a liar by omission suddenly told you).

And why now? Was it to unburden himself? Or are there related things to tell? E.g.,

• "...and this house was bought with monies I gained from that event"

• "...you know, now that I think about it, there was another person there/another time I HAD to kill someone..."

• "...my kids are actually the children of the person I killed"

• "...that <whatever> was something the murdered person had; I kept it to remind me..."

• "...and I've committed a number of white collar crimes, including embezzlement..."
SW-User
She'd need to confess. No two ways about it. I'd be with her throughout it all but only if she confessed. If she refuses I'd leave. I would tell anyone about what I know, but I'd distance myself far from her just in case she gets the notion I know too much to live
SW-User
If it was not premeditated, then i dont see any reason to turn them in after being with them for 20 years and they've not done anything bad in that whole time.
But that is if they do regret what happened.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
Turn that person in, no other option

Regardless premeditated or not someone has been killed and that family needs to know the truth
MethDozer · M
@nedkelly Snitch
That's a tough one... I guess it depends on the circumstances of how it happened and how they feel about it now.
CestManan · 46-50, F
I would not. Nothing good would come of it. It would ruin their life and the snitche's life.
Northwest · M
It depends on how it happened, not whether it was premeditated.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
@Northwest I agree in part. Premeditation doesn't necessarily make me worry, if the person they killed was abusive.
Disguised · 56-60, M
The law is the law... follow it... after putting all their assets in your own name naturally...
NotAfraidofAnything · 26-30, M
Probably turn them in since the family has no idea what happened to there love one.
Magenta · F
I wouldn't turn them in, but there is so much detail left out here.
Dino11 · M
Does murder have a statute of limitation/
MethDozer · M
@Dino11 generally no. There's no statute of limitations for "heinous crimes". In certain cases a judge can rule a statute on the basis of a fair and speedy trial if the murder occured long ago and the defendent's alibis are no longer living or of reasonably sound mind.
Houdini · 56-60, M
No one likes a grass
redredred · M
I don’t call the police in on this in exchange for an uncontested divorce. There is such a thing as an accessory after the fact. Get your own lawyer, (not your divorce lawyer) and discuss this with that lawyer. This could be serious.
Adamski24 · 41-45, M
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There's probably several factors to consider. Firstly I'd want to know what the circumstance of the incident was.
Nobody0 · 22-25
I think i would keep it a secret because maybe they had a good reason to do it i don't see anything wrong
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
throw her a Kill Bill themed anniversary party
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
@DunningKruger has the right of it. There are a number of clarifying questions I'd have before making my decision.
MethDozer · M
I aint ever doing chore or going to work again.

 
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