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Suppose you were married for 7 years today. Would you arrange something special for your patner?

Or just let the day go by because well you’ve been together since forever?
Pfuzylogic · M
Anniversary…celebrate now or pay later!
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Maybe go out for drinks. We've never been super big into anniversary gifts.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@Starcrossed spending time together and sharing activities is enough for me
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
Anniversaries should always be celebrated!
Maybe go out for a nice dinner or something. My wife & I didn't make a big fuss about anniversaries until we hit 25. We made that an excuse to take a trip we had long wanted to take.
I'd make the effort - mostly because it's nice to have someone make you feel special on special days... but also because you don't want to get stuck in the rut where those important milestones get overlooked because "We don't usually celebrate anniversaries".

It's tragic when wedding anniversaries become just another day, without even a verbal "Happy anniversary" said. I know... STBX doesn't even do that anymore.
@kimmy159 Because of financial abuse, I don't even get the option to do anything like that.

If I had the means, I would just do it anyway... if he wants to be there and participate, then he can - if not... I'll celebrate alone. That might help to get the message across.
kimmy159 · F
@HootyTheNightOwl Heheh I always appreciate your input ^^ I already do that by going away with friends (girls) more often whether or not he likes that. They know more of what I like to do than he does 🤷🏻‍♀️
@kimmy159 In my case, any guy I'm with has to accept that I will be found hanging out with the boys.

Most of the people I gravitate towards are male, so my friend circle is mostly male (I've been that way since I was a teenager and struggled to fit in with the girls)... however, I wouldn't be doing sleepovers alone with the boys unless I know that my relationship is strong enough to tolerate that. Up to now... few have been that secure.
Reject · 26-30, M
Depends on what the couple has agreed on. Some people are happily married and don’t have any celebrations at all. They barely even had a wedding. Others use any excuse they can to celebrate. Lol. Love is expressed in a lot of different ways and as long as it’s there. All is good.
Reject · 26-30, M
@kimmy159 Maybe he’s just settled in then. Does he seem happy albeit with no interest in celebrations?
kimmy159 · F
@Reject He says he is, he never needed much affection either so I believe him. I have a bit more difficulty with it though
Reject · 26-30, M
@kimmy159 I see! You’re different from your partner so there’s things to work out there. That’s okay! If he really does love you he’ll be willing to do a bit extra to help you feel better. You might think of that as a comprise but it doesn’t have to be. You find a game that you both want to play. That’s the solution. Not a compromise. You and him bring your skills to the table where you’re both optimally utilized so it’s a better game than you two could play alone.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
Imagine being married 49 years and you get her a card and she gets you nothing.
kimmy159 · F
@Degbeme I feel like this is eventually how we’ll end up if we both stop doing effort
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@kimmy159 I honestly hope not.
kimmy159 · F
@Degbeme But why doesn’t she do any effort though? I often feel like life is rough enough as it is. Might as well try to make the ones around us a little happier through our effort
GunFinger · F
In May was our 7th wedding anniversary. We just had dinner out, us 4 (the whole family). He didn't wanna go out. I insisted so we did.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
Our anniversary is always special
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
I can't remember what we did on our 7th anniversary. I suspect we waited until the weekend to celebrate. We are not big on anniversaries.
kimmy159 · F
@JimboSaturn It’s definitely okay not to be big on anniversaries together. But what if your partner was really big on it? Would you put in more effort than you’d normally do yourself to make them happy? Just curious, there is no wrong answer here
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@kimmy159 Yes is she was really into it I would definitely make a big deal of it.
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
If your partner is chill and knows you’re in love with them no matter what I think it’s ok to not celebrate. But if you KNOW your partner would want something then plan something.
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@kimmy159 I see. You can always dm if you need tips or advice, although they’re very psychopathic and manipulative. I’m just really good at this stuff.
kimmy159 · F
@AnonymousJSS I’m supposed to be too to be honest 😂 It’s just that my husband knows me too well on that front by now after having been together since we were teenagers :-) I appreciate it though 😁 Can I add you?
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@kimmy159 Yes you may
DaveE54 · 56-60, MVIP
Absolutely it’s something to be celebrated
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
well, knowing you, so im biased
but ever year should have something even if just a small thing
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
@kimmy159 im sorry :( for that & that you arent feeling well
anything i can do?
kimmy159 · F
@AllelujahHaptism Thanks that’s so sweet ☺️ there’s really nothing you can do though 😁 but I appreciate it 😁
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
@kimmy159 well, i can be around, just incase haha
black4white · 56-60, M
Always celebrate because nothing is guaranteed congrats on the 7 years and ya know I am on 30+ and get hyped to enjoy every year if not more lol
kimmy159 · F
@black4white I agree 😁 Nothing is guaranteed in life. I prefer taking every opportunity to celebrate important days. When we were married for 5 years, I took my husband to see a grand prix in Formula 1 in Italy for 5 days even though I’m not a race fan myself. We had a blast. I’m not saying something like this should be the goal every time, but everytime my husband is in charge of the arrangements we usually end up doing not much of anything and it kind of disappoints me :(
One of our other anniversaries, he took me to Disneyland and centerparcs even though I said I still liked doing that but wanted to go with our kid. We went by ourselves and I kept thinking Neil would have loved this and that, but as an adult I’m not enjoying it as much by ourselves anymore.
Idk if it’s just me expecting too much or if I should be able to expect more from the person I’ve been together with for 17 years. Even my friends know what I like more :(
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
Anniversaries are celebrations! Something special should be planned, or if for some reason it cannot be done today, then alternates plans to celebrate should be made.
carpediem · 61-69, M
First, congrats on your anniversary. So he didn't do anything special for/with you? I'll fix it. I'll call him and straighten him out for you.
kimmy159 · F
@carpediem heheh thanks 😁
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
A dinner outside and a trip to the joy land would do A small personal gift won't hurt anyone either.
kimmy159 · F
@YMITheWayIM Sounds pretty perfect 👌
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
Depends if I'm saddled down with too much sh!t 2 do.
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FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
@kimmy159 I just said it cause I figured no one else would (somebody had to).
kimmy159 · F
@FloorGenAdm Guess not, but honestly I do understand. It’s not like I don’t have a busy life of my own. I have a very busy career and we have a kid of 5 years old. I mainly take care of him cause my husband has a busy career too. But often when people feel tired, they stop putting in the effort. I’ve never been like that but it saddens me sometimes that I don’t seem to get the same effort returned on that front.
I know it’s quite demanding in some way. But if I’m willing to do the same, I guess I expect at least a bit of effort too :-)
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
We usually trade cards and go out to dinner together. Sometimes a simple gift.
I personally think life gets boring when you stop celebrating moments like this
Yes, I would do something simple that we would both enjoy.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Forgetting an anniversary as a man is one of the 7 deadly sins.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
Something special
twistedrope · 26-30, M
Id say "God we married way too young, what the hell is wrong with you to marry so young." Then I'd ask that we stop celebrating anniversary's to which that would be rejected, thus I wouldn't participate.

I hate annual celebrations.
Cassieeeee · 31-35, F
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
Yes, I would. Unless they're the humble type because then I'd still celebrate it like it's the last thing I'd ever do. ☺️
iamBen · M
Each year within a successful relationship is a milestone and cause for celebration.
Bang5luts · M
If I were married I would buy myself a huge cheesecake as a gift so my wife wouldn't have to fuss with it and that way she could do her chores and not be interrupted with my silliness
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kimmy159 · F
@Jimbo1 So you’d never celebrate it in between? These days staying together for any amount of years seems already worth celebrating lol
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