Suppose you were married for 7 years today. Would you arrange something special for your patner?
Or just let the day go by because well you’ve been together since forever?
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I'd make the effort - mostly because it's nice to have someone make you feel special on special days... but also because you don't want to get stuck in the rut where those important milestones get overlooked because "We don't usually celebrate anniversaries".
It's tragic when wedding anniversaries become just another day, without even a verbal "Happy anniversary" said. I know... STBX doesn't even do that anymore.
It's tragic when wedding anniversaries become just another day, without even a verbal "Happy anniversary" said. I know... STBX doesn't even do that anymore.
kimmy159 · F
@HootyTheNightOwl I feel the same way :( my husband and I are both working a lot and we said we would go out for lunch cause he has to work the upcoming 3 weekends. But I fell ill with fever so we had to cancel. Apparently we’re cancelling the entire celebration aside from some quick fix ups at home. It’s not like I don’t understand cause we have a kid of 5 too so our options are limited. And he means to give me some rest so he’s keeping our son occupied right now. But somehow I still feel kind of disappointed. He also said that jewelry and presents are overrated earlier because I pointed out how I haven’t actually received any in the last 7 years. It’s not like it’s a goal or must do. But other people like his brother do so much more for their partner according to what they like such as going on a trip etc whereas we always end up doing nothing because he doesn’t feel the need to :(
@kimmy159 How about you just do a special dinner at home for the two of you, then???
Order in something tasty, find a nice film that you would both enjoy and Netflix and chill after the children go to bed.
If you're up to it, you could even dress up for it or stay in your jammies and have a jammie date.
That way he can do what he wants, you can rest and recover for most of the day and you can still have a date night, too - admittedly at home... but it's different from usual life.
Order in something tasty, find a nice film that you would both enjoy and Netflix and chill after the children go to bed.
If you're up to it, you could even dress up for it or stay in your jammies and have a jammie date.
That way he can do what he wants, you can rest and recover for most of the day and you can still have a date night, too - admittedly at home... but it's different from usual life.
kimmy159 · F
@HootyTheNightOwl logically speaking, I know you’re right but emotionally, I’m upset that I’m always the one who has to come up with the ideas and put in the effort for whatever I’d like us to be doing. And if I don’t, then nothing happens. And even if I do, a lot of the times he just blows it off as being expensive or not suiting his shedule. Whereas we don’t lack any money.
kimmy159 · F
@HootyTheNightOwl Heheh I always appreciate your input ^^ I already do that by going away with friends (girls) more often whether or not he likes that. They know more of what I like to do than he does 🤷🏻♀️
@kimmy159 In my case, any guy I'm with has to accept that I will be found hanging out with the boys.
Most of the people I gravitate towards are male, so my friend circle is mostly male (I've been that way since I was a teenager and struggled to fit in with the girls)... however, I wouldn't be doing sleepovers alone with the boys unless I know that my relationship is strong enough to tolerate that. Up to now... few have been that secure.
Most of the people I gravitate towards are male, so my friend circle is mostly male (I've been that way since I was a teenager and struggled to fit in with the girls)... however, I wouldn't be doing sleepovers alone with the boys unless I know that my relationship is strong enough to tolerate that. Up to now... few have been that secure.