Suppose you were married for 7 years today. Would you arrange something special for your patner?

Or just let the day go by because well you’ve been together since forever?

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Reject · 31-35, M

Depends on what the couple has agreed on. Some people are happily married and don’t have any celebrations at all. They barely even had a wedding. Others use any excuse they can to celebrate. Lol. Love is expressed in a lot of different ways and as long as it’s there. All is good.

kimmy159 · F

@Reject I think the main problem is that he’s the first type and I’m the second 😅 because there is little effort and affection in general, he often makes me doubt whether there is still love between us and whether it’s not just convenience these days.

Reject · 31-35, M

@kimmy159 I’m sorry to hear that. Did he used to like celebrating?

kimmy159 · F

@Reject it never was a big thing for him but it’s gotten less the busier our lives got, it seems

Reject · 31-35, M

@kimmy159 Maybe he’s just settled in then. Does he seem happy albeit with no interest in celebrations?

kimmy159 · F

@Reject He says he is, he never needed much affection either so I believe him. I have a bit more difficulty with it though

Reject · 31-35, M

@kimmy159 I see! You’re different from your partner so there’s things to work out there. That’s okay! If he really does love you he’ll be willing to do a bit extra to help you feel better. You might think of that as a comprise but it doesn’t have to be. You find a game that you both want to play. That’s the solution. Not a compromise. You and him bring your skills to the table where you’re both optimally utilized so it’s a better game than you two could play alone.