Getting on with life

Been there, done that, and it may be a blur but that is a lot of progress. Congrats. Dementia being the primary reason for the move, how much you could disrupt her routine probably was limited. But it was good advice from the staff. Dementia wasn't the issue with my second partner, but the Assisted Living staff gave me the same advice. I unfortunately didn't listen to them, and picked her up and brought her home for a few hours the first week thinking it would ease the transition. Never happened. Became the expectation.

As for all the accumulated stuff: it was simple with my late wife. Like you, I brought the family together, daughters-in-law got to take any jewelry or clothing they wanted, west went to St. Vincent dePaul. Since my second-partner was a blended household and she had grown kids, grandkids and young great-grand-kids, I have been hesitant to force the issue and begin donating and discarding. Her family expresses interest, then doesn't follow through. Son and his wife have taken some stuff. Grandson has expressed interest in some stuff. I have carted about five big bags of clothing to St. Vincent. But her old office has become the junk room for most of the rest.

I'm so sorry. I used to work on the Alzheimer's/Dementia ward in a nursing home and it made me so sad. So I had to look at things in a whole new way.... While they had no idea who I was,nor who their family was, they were content in their own little worlds. I never tried to correct them for getting things mixed up because it would get them extremely upset, so I just sat & chatted with them as best I could and they were happy & calm.
I hope you somehow find your peace in this.

I am sad for your situation. Maybe your wife is feeling comfortable where she is now. That will be a load off your mind that she is getting the care that she needs now and into the future.
It will be nice for you to have a real semblance of control home wise.
Not having to negotiate stairs every time you go to bed will be a blessing for sure.

Very sad for you. You're doing a fantastic job of keeping it all together. Once things settle into the routine you can relax a little yourself and enjoy her in the newer surroundings...for what feels safe and comfortable for her.

Take each day as it comes, pet.

Bless you. 🫂

I’m sorry this is happening to you and your wife. It’s hard for the entire family to watch a loved one go through dementia. We went through it with my mom. The best and safest place for my mom was being in a nursing home

Dementia may be the worst of all the aging symptoms. it's not comfortable for the person or the ones that care about or for her.

Sorry you both are going through this.

I'm so sorry to hear about your wife.
But I am glad you are clearing out the clutter to help you move down stairs.

Maybe deep inside she knows when you are visiting her.

Good luck my friend, your life is changing in a major way, and you are facing this challenge with courage. Family situations like yours are not easy, and unfortunately all I can do is offer words of encouragement to stay strong.
May the Abrahamic God bless you for being faithful to your vow, of "in sickness and in health."
God bless.

I'm so very sorry to hear about your wife.

It is things like this that make world affairs seem remote and unimportant by comparison.

Thanks for the update. It's a sad situation, but good to see you moving on with things.

Sorry, Brother.

So sorry to hear of your situation.

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God bless you 🙏🙏🙏 That is never easy. 😢