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Getting on with life

The past few weeks have been a blur, getting my wife organised in dementia care, with organising all her clothing (that works for her now.. Buttons are an issue to start with) and helping the staff get her to settle in a routine. They have actually been so successful that at times she treats my visits as an interruption. Its confusing, because I have no idea about her reality now. Its simpler to just nod and agree..
But over Easter I have had the family come and help me clear out the downstairs master bedroom walk in robe and bathroom, so I can move myself down there soon. Just need to get a better shower screen fitted.. My wifes hoarding of clothes, shoes and other assorted purchases made movement in any of the rooms impoosible. But 3 SUVs fo the Salvationn Army, a trailer and one SUV to the local tip and a dozen garbage bags to a local dumpster and Its cleared.. I feel like its progress. And i wont miss those stairs...😷
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Gusman · 61-69, M
I am sad for your situation. Maybe your wife is feeling comfortable where she is now. That will be a load off your mind that she is getting the care that she needs now and into the future.
It will be nice for you to have a real semblance of control home wise.
Not having to negotiate stairs every time you go to bed will be a blessing for sure.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@Gusman Thats pretty much the situation. She is looked after and protected way better than I was able to do it, by people who just dont tire of her behaviours, because they get support, breaks and above all, go home at the end of the day. Now I get to visit her regularly and not have to battle to get her medications for the day into her and make something she will eat. And the house has an apartment built in downstairs that both our mothers lived in when they were frail. So the place is a suitable base for me..😷
Gusman · 61-69, M
@whowasthatmaskedman Happy the situation has improved for you. Sleep might be more restful?