Getting on with life

The past few weeks have been a blur, getting my wife organised in dementia care, with organising all her clothing (that works for her now.. Buttons are an issue to start with) and helping the staff get her to settle in a routine. They have actually been so successful that at times she treats my visits as an interruption. Its confusing, because I have no idea about her reality now. Its simpler to just nod and agree..
But over Easter I have had the family come and help me clear out the downstairs master bedroom walk in robe and bathroom, so I can move myself down there soon. Just need to get a better shower screen fitted.. My wifes hoarding of clothes, shoes and other assorted purchases made movement in any of the rooms impoosible. But 3 SUVs fo the Salvationn Army, a trailer and one SUV to the local tip and a dozen garbage bags to a local dumpster and Its cleared.. I feel like its progress. And i wont miss those stairs...😷

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KarenDuponteDurose · 51-55, F

Very sad for you. You're doing a fantastic job of keeping it all together. Once things settle into the routine you can relax a little yourself and enjoy her in the newer surroundings...for what feels safe and comfortable for her.

Take each day as it comes, pet.

Bless you. 🫂

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@KarenDuponteDurose Thanks. I am not complaining at all. 50 good years and a solid, thriving family to show for it. We have achieved a lot and I couldnt have done it without her. She has earned her rest, in whatever world she chooses..I am just adapting and learning how much free time I have now and what changes I want to make for me..😷

KarenDuponteDurose · 51-55, F

@whowasthatmaskedman That is good. Spend time with her as you can...it'll obviously not be the same as your married life...and enjoy that less stress you have been carrying....but also, give yourself some down time too...and make sure you too have support.

Who cares for the carers, right?

Karen x

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@KarenDuponteDurose Right. The kids have taken up the slack, once my daughter in particular realised how far things had got. That was the tipping point..😷

KarenDuponteDurose · 51-55, F

@whowasthatmaskedman Good! That's what us kids do...or should do.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@KarenDuponteDurose Then it looks like the orthodontic and the education were worth it.😷