trying to live without my wife

Do things differently. For instance if everday you drive a certain route to work. Change that route. Join a gym as you meet people there and get fit and it's a good change. Go on holiday or away for the weekend. One day you will find your smile again

Yes it's amazing how really alone you feel without your spouse. I had a cancer scare with my wife and I realized I never noticed how much we keep each other company even if we are sitting in a room not talking. My daughter is grown up practically and I have no family nearby. I was horrified when I contemplated how truly alone I would be without her. Hang in there buddy.

I would suggest volunteering or doing something in the community.

Just going for a long drive for a couple days to someplace you've never been helps. Talk to the locals whether it's a bar, restaurant or some social event

Those are my favorite types of trips. Much better than a tourist trap

What do you think your wife would want for you and your life without her? And if the roles were reversed, what would you want for her?
If you were together for 18 years I'd bet the house that she'd want you to be happy and find fulfillment. And you'd feel the same. That doesn't mean looking for a replacement. That won't happen. What you had was unique. You may find someone else and you may not. But that doesn't mean you can't find happiness in other ways. There's lot of ways to be happy. But it's a choice. I hope it works out for you bro. Hang in. Things do get better with time.

So sorry about your loss. I lost my spouse this past year. We almost made it to 45 years.

I assume you’re seeing a counselor. If not, find one. I have identified a few things standing in my way of getting back to living a full life. I’m aggressively dealing with them and suggest you identify what standing in your way too. Then deal with it.

It’s only been 5 months for me, but I’m beginning to live again. You will too. Please accept my sincere condolences. Then get up, get active, and start living.

So sorry for your loss. I hope things get better for you this year.

can u move somewhere else? living in the same house must be hard when everything reminds u of her

What your going though is my big fear is my wife dies before me?

Time to change your life.

Try to join interest groups, such as a choir, gym, music etc, just to meet people. It’s a start.

So Sorry For Your loss

I am very sorry for your loss

What I've often heard it said after a loved one passes away, is move to a new location that neither of you were familiar with.

If you stayed in the apartment where you are now, you will constantly be reminded of how life was with her in that apartment, no matter how you change things around.

The walls themselves will seem to echo the person's voice every time you walk into a different room, which means the apartment itself stops you from moving forward and finding closure with your wife's passing.

To move to a new place is easier said than done, but the alternative is to do nothing.

To do nothing means that your mind will remain stuck in the past and you will never experience the present moment if you devote your present moment to thinking about past events in your life.

This also means that your future will become a reflection of your past, which means your future and your past will both become one in the same.