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Was she hitting on me??

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So I have a particular coffee spot that I have been going to off and on for about a year now. They host a few events every week. I've gotten to know the staff and the host and a few of the artists that frequent this place. So, a woman I've known pretty much since I've been in attendance was chit chatting with me as per usual and in the middle of me talking she stops me and says

Your so beautiful, you're stunning. When I see your pictures on line and Everytime you come in your face just floors me. It's your eyes and your skin, it's really gorgeous 🥰. I'm sorry I don't mean to make things weird.....

But I wasn't weirded out at all because I'm used to giving and receiving compliments from people I consider friends....

So why was it weird for her? And why was she gushing like that over my appearance when we see each other almost every other week??

Was she hitting on me??

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Nunki · 31-35, F

It could just be that she's awkward. Other women often compliment me in a platonic way and vice versa but who knows with this particular girl

SWfan · 41-45, M

@Nunki that's true.

SWfan · 41-45, M

MizzO maybe she found you attractive.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@SWfan maybe...

SWfan · 41-45, M

@MizzO who knows you meet her again.

ineedadrink · 51-55, M

See if it happens again. Hard to tell from one time.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@ineedadrink her telling me I'm beautiful or I look good is pretty normal. I always respond in kind. Never thought nothing of it ...

ineedadrink · 51-55, M

@MizzO IF she was actually flirting for real, how would that make you feel? Would would you consider it to be good or bad?

MizzO · 31-35, F

@ineedadrink I don't think I would see it as good or bad just the fact of what's happenisee But it would be weird because she's at least 20 years older than me and I would have hoped that I didn't give her the wrong impression

Placetodream · 46-50, F

Easy just ask her straight out, Sounds to me like you want that to be the answer.

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MizzO · 31-35, F

@Placetodream and we are all entitled to our own perspectives. I don't think I have to accept anything to be completely honest. Women hitting on me makes me uncomfortable and so I address it when those situations arise. When men make me uncomfortable I also address the situation promptly. No need to be a big deal. I wasn't offended but I was unsure if I was properly assessing the situation. I don't need to be rude to let a person know that I'm not interested and that their advances were making me uncomfortable.

Placetodream · 46-50, F

@MizzO My final response to you. You have answered all your own questions, about your feelings, and how you want to respond to different approaches, and certainly there is no more I wish to say. I hope you find the path you need to make you more comfortable with those around you, Good luck and best wishes.

SWfan · 41-45, M

@Placetodream I agree with you.

Jamesy · 41-45, M

Seems that way Mizz

JonUK41 · 36-40, M

Of course she's hitting on you.

Does she know/think you are attracted to women?

MizzO · 31-35, F

@JonUK41 I'm not sure why she would. I've never given the impression that I like women.... But I do give complements all the time 🫠

yeronlyman · 51-55, M

Maybe just accept it as face value (literally lol).

😬

sensualbilez · F

Definitely hitting on you. Sounds like she wants somethin

SWfan · 41-45, M

@sensualbilez I agree.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@sensualbilez she's a good 20 years older than me and has been in the artistic field for about as many years so she has offered on numerous occasions to be somewhat of a mentor towards me but if she's now hitting on me then I wonder if she was being genuine...

SWfan · 41-45, M

@MizzO age is just a number, I think that you should ask her out on a date.

Convivial · 26-30, F

Is that the real question or is how you feel about it the real question?

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MizzO · 31-35, F

@Convivial well if she is I would want to be direct and put an end to any misleadings and if she's not that might be offensive so I didn't want to just jump out there and shut things down if they weren't actually happening

Convivial · 26-30, F

@MizzO you are not responsible for how they feel of if they're attracted to you... That's on them

Convivial · 26-30, F

@MizzO just be you... If she's putting out feelers and you're not responding she'll understand

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