Was she hitting on me??

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So I have a particular coffee spot that I have been going to off and on for about a year now. They host a few events every week. I've gotten to know the staff and the host and a few of the artists that frequent this place. So, a woman I've known pretty much since I've been in attendance was chit chatting with me as per usual and in the middle of me talking she stops me and says

Your so beautiful, you're stunning. When I see your pictures on line and Everytime you come in your face just floors me. It's your eyes and your skin, it's really gorgeous 🥰. I'm sorry I don't mean to make things weird.....

But I wasn't weirded out at all because I'm used to giving and receiving compliments from people I consider friends....

So why was it weird for her? And why was she gushing like that over my appearance when we see each other almost every other week??

Was she hitting on me??

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Placetodream · 46-50, F

Easy just ask her straight out, Sounds to me like you want that to be the answer.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Placetodream nah. I'd be relieved it wasn't

Placetodream · 46-50, F

@MizzO Then nothing is lost If it was not what you would like it to be, then let it pass, you don't even have to react to her by saying thank you, before saying hope you have had a nice day too. Or simply change the subject.
If she does hit on you directly, you can answer her simply by saying to her, sorry but I am not interested. If you want to be nicer, say you are with someone.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Placetodream really an awkward case for me dealing with women who may like me. I tend to be blissfully unaware and I've had a few misunderstandings. Yeah. I was told she would get the hint if I wasn't responsive but knowing me a whole year, I would think would be some kind of indication....

Placetodream · 46-50, F

@MizzO Sorry I don't see it the same way, I suggest you learn to accept women who find you attractive, as a sweet compliment, if you are confident they find you sexually attractive, treat it as another nice compliment, you never have to show you accept or reject their comments or suggestions, that you like or don't find other women attractive, but you can or should say if you are being hit on, that you are happily spoken for with that side of your life.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Placetodream and we are all entitled to our own perspectives. I don't think I have to accept anything to be completely honest. Women hitting on me makes me uncomfortable and so I address it when those situations arise. When men make me uncomfortable I also address the situation promptly. No need to be a big deal. I wasn't offended but I was unsure if I was properly assessing the situation. I don't need to be rude to let a person know that I'm not interested and that their advances were making me uncomfortable.

Placetodream · 46-50, F

@MizzO My final response to you. You have answered all your own questions, about your feelings, and how you want to respond to different approaches, and certainly there is no more I wish to say. I hope you find the path you need to make you more comfortable with those around you, Good luck and best wishes.

SWfan · 41-45, M

@Placetodream I agree with you.