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Would you take a cheater back?

My answer is HELL NO! If I ever decide to be in a relationship, which I'm fine not being in one, I'd let her have one chance of being a real, loyal, loving person. She does the unforgivable, there's no going back. I don't care if she cries and beg for forgiveness, it's something you can't take back and there's no second chance. If I were to take her back, I'd be the fool to let her cheat again. The break-up will hurt, that's for sure, but at least I won't have to worry about her betraying me ever again. ✌️

Cheaters are the guilty ones, and I won't show any sympathy to those that do it. Even if they're my friends, I'll tell them straight that it's your fault for not giving that person real love.
xSiFiGamer2016x
26-30, M
21 replies 157 views Jun 30, 2024
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Miram · 31-35, F
Sometimes when people make these threads, and they aren't in relationships nor dealing with a cheater, it can mean they are struggling with the helplessness of watching someone they care/ed about settle for less than love. And at times it is because they idealize love and hold it as a virtue, the realization that there are those who do not experience love the same way, and would often take advantage of such trust, creates uncomfortable fears. To love is to be vulnerable. The whole thing is akin to vicarious trauma.
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DrWatson · 70-79, M
I know a few marriages in which the husband cheated, the couple went in for counselling, and gradually over time trust was restored. The marriage ended up far healthier than it had been beforehand.

But it is hard, painful work.

And there is a woman who comes and goes on SW who has posted about how she has not only forgiven her husband for his affair, but that the teenage son (probably an adult now) from that affair is welcome at family gatherings.

Forgiveness is a powerful thing.
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Magenta · F
IDK, I might. Saying something and doing it can be different things. I would have to be in the situation to determine that.
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Nitedoc · 51-55, M
I understand. My ex-wife cheated on me, probably several times, before I threw her out and filed for divorce. She tried everything she could to come back to me for a year or so. I did miss her terribly but I just couldn't forgive her or trust her again. Her betrayal just hurt too much and I could not feace that again.
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xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M
@Nitedoc This right here proves my point in cheating. Love is a powerful thing, and it can be taken away from something that's irreversible.
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BatmanIRL · T
I took back a cheating ex after they cheated many many times
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xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M
@BatmanIRL Damn. When it comes to cheating, in my opinion, loyalty wasn't even there to begin with. Sorry to hear that, though.
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BatmanIRL · T
@xSiFiGamer2016x I was pathetic to let it happen tbh
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xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M
@BatmanIRL We gotta take some accountability in our lives. Some aren't willing to accept it, and those that just completely understand that it's their fault to let things happen. I respect you enough for admitting your mistakes.
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nevergiveup · M
the thought of having sex with her after someone else has been there. No i could not take her back
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Raaii · 22-25, F
no can't even if I die *
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Katie01 · F
Sure. I've cheated and been taken back so it's only fair
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InOtterWords · F
I thonk you cannot say until you are there.
There may be other factors to consider... children, circumstances.

A relationship needs to be worked on and if someone chooses to stay in such a relationship and work on it then respect to them.

People make mistakes you know.
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xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M
@InOtterWords She'd be lying to me, SILENTLY, for 10 years. That's far beyond forgiveness.
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InOtterWords · F
@xSiFiGamer2016x but if your life has been wonderful all that time since?

I just think these things are never black or white and that forgiveness is a huge part of a relationship
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xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M
@InOtterWords There's nothing "wonderful" in life about getting your heart broken from someone who cheats on you. And when it comes to forgiveness, like everything else, it's earned. And forgiveness depends on what you've done, how often you do it, and how bad it has gotten.

If a woman respects their partner in a relationship, she wouldn't cheat. Same for a man. I understand what you're saying, but I'm still not going to take her back.
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