Would you take a cheater back?

My answer is HELL NO! If I ever decide to be in a relationship, which I'm fine not being in one, I'd let her have one chance of being a real, loyal, loving person. She does the unforgivable, there's no going back. I don't care if she cries and beg for forgiveness, it's something you can't take back and there's no second chance. If I were to take her back, I'd be the fool to let her cheat again. The break-up will hurt, that's for sure, but at least I won't have to worry about her betraying me ever again. ✌️

Cheaters are the guilty ones, and I won't show any sympathy to those that do it. Even if they're my friends, I'll tell them straight that it's your fault for not giving that person real love.

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

I know a few marriages in which the husband cheated, the couple went in for counselling, and gradually over time trust was restored. The marriage ended up far healthier than it had been beforehand.

But it is hard, painful work.

And there is a woman who comes and goes on SW who has posted about how she has not only forgiven her husband for his affair, but that the teenage son (probably an adult now) from that affair is welcome at family gatherings.

Forgiveness is a powerful thing.