This is why I’m single. Am I wrong to feel annoyed by this ?

You are expecting too much from a man you haven’t yet dated. Asking him for money is way out of line. He’s not your mother, or brother. You seem to have a sense of entitlement. Asking for soup was one thing, but doing your laundry, and asking for money was way too much.

Asking someone for money you're not even in a relationship with is incredibly inappropriate. So is doing your laundry. That's a very intimate thing.

If he asked what he could do to help, picking up some groceries would be appropriate.

You went too far asking for more and probably screwed yourself out of what he was originally offering [a meal] by asking for too much.

It would be incredibly rude to "punish" him by canceling just because you thought he didn't give enough...that is manipulative. Is that a personal trait you want to cultivate?

No, you're not wrong to feel that way.

Edit to add:

Bringing you food would be nice of him, but anything else is asking a little too much at this point.

you are asking an awful lot. helping you with laundry on top of the food was a lot. But money too?? thats... shocking. .

Yeah you seem entitled as hell but spoiled people always say stuff like that. You don't even know him well enough to ask for money or to do you're laundry he's not ya mom dad or sister or anything and even then. Geesh people act like they are owed everything by strangers. Hopefully you will grow up and get a clue. The best thing that could happen to him is you canceling the date lol.

Lmao is this for real

A lot of people throw around the word deserve I've noticed. That word infers entitlement. I think anybody that thinks they're entitled to something has grandiose delusions of their self-importance. None of us are entitled or deserve anything. We have to work for and earn it but we never deserve it. That includes relationships.
When we start thinking that we deserve things, we're setting ourselves up for a lot of disappointment and a poor quality life.
Having high expectations is a killer.

If I were in his position with you, wanting to get to know you better but didn't know you well and had another date lined up with you, I either would not offer anything (unlikely) or be prepared to do a version of the minimum since I didn't know you long or well. It's the once bitten (usually more than once) twice shy thing that can make me weary and maybe a lot of men. He should have been more specific like directly say what he'd be willing to get you or help you with. There's no way I'm going to offer up a half a day's salary when I don't know you. I'm sorry, it just doesn't work that way. (bitten fear as well as common sense). I'm likely to get you the Chinese food you want if it's not too far away. Laundry and money would come well after knowing you for quite some time. Laundry may be a little bit sooner than that.

It's a bit troubling for me to hear you reference the kind of car he drives and the amount of help he's able to give you without knowing you. If I was going to date you and felt you were measuring me up only by my car. You would be the one that gets dumped quickly.

I do hope you start feeling better soon. 🍜🥡😷🙏🏻

Maybe he doesn't wanna seem like a push over?

Get well soon :)

He sounds like an asswipe. At least he let his true colours show early on.

If he is offering help and then won't give any, it sounds as if the offer was just a line to try to get into your good graces.

This does not bode well for his sincerity in general.

What a waste man just block his sorry ass!


Edit just realized you haven't even dated this guy's so no he isn't wrong to say no.

When you mentioned his car and all, I totally agreed with you. I say break the date. He doesn't sound like someone you'd want to be around.

Do you often try to use people like that?

I guess you've read the responses by now.
So: Are you going to cut the guy some slack OR: ask him to marry you so you can ask him to do your laundry and give you some money?😈

Um, did you really ask him for money?

That does sound annoying. Sorry.

Shame mans got a bimmer and cant get you some Ramen noodles

Obviously doesn't mean what he says, he's showing the quality of the man he is and character... Not worth your time ..

"Let me know if you need anything." most likely what is called a tarrof.
A polite but empty gesture.

sounds trivial nonsense, there are far more legitimate things in the world to be annoyed about now.

listen to ur intuition, he is only looking to fuck u, not get with you, getting with you would include getting you ANYTHING YOU NEEDED especially when you are sick.

Sounds like you can do better than him

Yea. I’d feel the same.
I hope you get well soon.

literally everyone here saying that you’re asking too much shows how little they value themselves. don’t listen to ppl who don’t see any value in themselves, they will not be able to see it in you no matter how hard they tried. you are worth every request; especially to a guy who “is interested in courting you”

i would cancel this “empty promises” he asked you, you responded, honestly and no beating around the bush, so he fucked off by saying no, leave him there. (:

Yes, that's why.

No soup, no date. Not obligated to do any thing else, but shows as a date, he was not eager to help with food, so unlikely worth a follow up.
If i was really crazy about a girl, I'd get her food.

Asking for money is really innappopriate. You can't expect him to simp for you.

wow i can't believe you asked this guy for money what a cheak

you asked him for money

The guy is an ass.

Yeah I'd say this is why 😆

Wow

He asks then recants, sounds like a real Chad that should be kicked to the curb.