This is why I’m single. Am I wrong to feel annoyed by this ?

So I’m very sick today. The guy who’s trying to date me asked me more than once to let him know if I needed anything. After the second time I told him, I need some soup or rice from my fav chinese spot. That I need help w/ laundry or maybe some money so I can take half the day off work. He responds sorry I don’t have much to give. You asked me what do I need. I never asked him for a thing until he asked me if I need anything. I really want to cuss him out. Also we never hooked up or anything but he invited me to another date and I’m tempted to just cancel it. If someone is sick or in need I will help, I get my girlfriends food or tea when they are sick. So a man that’s trying to get w/ me can’t pick one thing is annoying to me. Then the fact that he flexes a bmw, and the postion he has at work but can’t get me some soup. The little things matter to me. Also I’m very sick rn so I’m even more grumpy and pissed about this. X a million.

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Elisbch · M

If I were in his position with you, wanting to get to know you better but didn't know you well and had another date lined up with you, I either would not offer anything (unlikely) or be prepared to do a version of the minimum since I didn't know you long or well. It's the once bitten (usually more than once) twice shy thing that can make me weary and maybe a lot of men. He should have been more specific like directly say what he'd be willing to get you or help you with. There's no way I'm going to offer up a half a day's salary when I don't know you. I'm sorry, it just doesn't work that way. (bitten fear as well as common sense). I'm likely to get you the Chinese food you want if it's not too far away. Laundry and money would come well after knowing you for quite some time. Laundry may be a little bit sooner than that.

It's a bit troubling for me to hear you reference the kind of car he drives and the amount of help he's able to give you without knowing you. If I was going to date you and felt you were measuring me up only by my car. You would be the one that gets dumped quickly.

I do hope you start feeling better soon. 🍜🥡😷🙏🏻