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How do you handle a woman's insecurities?

I have run into this problem pretty frequently. Sometimes she'll be jealous of a woman in my life, othertimes she'll feel like she isn't enough for the job she wants. Hell, I've run into girls who get jealous of their sister-in-law or are struggling to get mommies approval. I get how they feel, but I honestly choke every time.

How do you soothe a situation over like that?
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Just listen, don’t try to fix unless asked.
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
Help her to feel accepted, build her up. She has probably had many people in life who spent years tearing her down little by little.

It’ll take work, let her know you are there for her. When she is acting jealous or insecure about the relationship you could always ask her how or in what ways can you help her to feel more secure. She’ll be able to tell you what she needs. She won’t always be perfect with it, but if you’re willing to open the communication and allow her to be open about how she feels and what she needs you can make it work. Just remember it’s a two way street. Just as she has needs that need to be met so do you, so be open with her about your needs as well.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@NewBeginnings7790 Good answer.
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
@Zonuss Thank you
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
Initially, I tried to let it slide at first thinking that it was a one-time thing. But when it kept happening it started really impacting the relationship. My next approach was just to address it directly, but that ended horribly for me. Turns out a lot of women don't like being called out for their shitty behavior.

I've done a lot of thinking in the time since about how I would go about handling that again, and I'm pretty sure the best thing you can do is just to ask her why she feels that way. I don't think many women are truly aware of how deep some of their insecurities run, so getting to the bottom of it might help her realize that she has some toxic tendencies.
Maybe she doesn't feel understood. That's how I've always felt. Sometimes I think I even married the wrong person.
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
you need to find a girl who is secure about herself and does not care about other people..
Jinxie · 51-55, F
Sometimes the best reflections we get are from others not mirrors. Tell her what you love about her. She may not be perfect, but she may be perfect for you and needs to hear it.
The same way you handle a woman's periods. That's for her to work out.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
You can't handle them. Listening usually helps a lot.
I felt understood by my fam but they're gone.
caccoon · 36-40
You can't.

We have to deal with our own insecurities, and confidence can only be built alone.

No amount of reassurance will help
poke my own eyeballs out
Zonuss · 41-45, M
You don't. As long as you're doing the right thing then you're fine.
Rokasu · 36-40, M
Just prodigy her ayuss.
Bang5luts · M
With compassion, respect, empathy, marathon and other Olympic skilled escape methods when necessary.

 
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