How do you handle a woman's insecurities?

I have run into this problem pretty frequently. Sometimes she'll be jealous of a woman in my life, othertimes she'll feel like she isn't enough for the job she wants. Hell, I've run into girls who get jealous of their sister-in-law or are struggling to get mommies approval. I get how they feel, but I honestly choke every time.

How do you soothe a situation over like that?

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TinyViolins · 31-35, M

Initially, I tried to let it slide at first thinking that it was a one-time thing. But when it kept happening it started really impacting the relationship. My next approach was just to address it directly, but that ended horribly for me. Turns out a lot of women don't like being called out for their shitty behavior.

I've done a lot of thinking in the time since about how I would go about handling that again, and I'm pretty sure the best thing you can do is just to ask her why she feels that way. I don't think many women are truly aware of how deep some of their insecurities run, so getting to the bottom of it might help her realize that she has some toxic tendencies.