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Is it okay to be “too comfortable” early in the dating stage?

Examples:
*Calling me stupid in a playful way
*Dismissing me when I’m talking
*Cuss and complain about other people in front of me
*Questions everything I do and give snarky comments on them

The situation is all too familiar to me. Abuse being disguised as a joke or playfulness. Talking to this person has its pleasures and also a run down to memory lane filled with trauma.

I adore a man who is more emotionally open and knows what he wants but there’s a catch. I feel like the stake is too high.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M Best Comment
I find that people who tend to be overly comfortable with strangers don't really respect them or their boundaries. They're just tools for their entertainment.

It's like those prank channels on YouTube that try to get under people's skin just to get a reaction out of them. In their minds, they're being playful or trying to get some laughs, but they're so disrespectful about it that in many cases they end up getting or nearly getting into physical altercations.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@TinyViolins I agree.

Mooed78 · F
I would see red flags here . You should not be treated in this way..this is my opinion, I would leave the relationship.. run..
That's narcissism - read the flags in your post again...
Menetics · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl Are you in too deep with him? How are you coping?
@Menetics Married for 19 years at this point.

The good news is that I have the support of my man to help me to get out of here. For the past 9 years I have been looking for someone to love and support me through what I know must be done... I'm hoping that this weekend will be my last one spent here.

I don't know where I am going to go just yet, given the fact that I don't feel safe in this country - but, even being on the streets has to be safer for me than staying here any longer.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl I hope everything works out for you :)
JaneDoe23 · F
Go with your gut. If it doesn't feel right, trust your instinct.
Viper · M
No, he sounds like a jerk, you should date me instead 😏
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SW-User
Yes, the stakes are high, but they are ripe for you to make them high too... And if they don't respond the way you like, tell them to walkaway?
SW-User
@Menetics It's been a long time since I considered romantically, but when I did, I knew I wanted someone that felt me just a little further deeper than anyone. I can say I found them, my best advice - don't settle and express what you want.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@SW-User I appreciate your insightful advice. Thank you!
SW-User
@Menetics You're welcome.
Ravens80 · 46-50, F
Be careful people will take advantage of you and shit on you. Finding some one who genuinely cares about you is a fest in itself! Good luck
SW-User
doesn't sound very comfortable to be in that kind of relationship. to me that is not ok
Menetics · 26-30, F
@SW-User It wasn’t that’s why I told him that we won’t work out. I rather tell him right away than lead him on.
SW-User
@Menetics Good move on your part to get out early. 👍
This has red flags all over it. Abort mission, do not get any further involved.
Menetics · 26-30, F
@NerdyPotato I will
Ontheroad · M
Early? Comfortable? It is never okay to be that way, never, not day one or day 365.
Jammer6475 · 46-50, M
They are out there, u just have to find them
Convivial · 26-30, F
Run, don't walk, to the nearest exit...
Wiseacre · F
Don't walk...run!
RebelFox · 36-40, F
He’s a jerk
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Iwillwait · M
What do you mean by "Dismissing you?
Menetics · 26-30, F
@Iwillwait Shut me off if he doesn't like my opinion on a topic. He would tell me I’m wrong or change the topic.
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Bang5luts · M
No. Not at all ok. That's not playing. I believe Those are serious red flags. Be careful
Drop that fucker like a hot potato.
@aboveaverageaveragejoe hey, no dropping potatoes, robot or not!
@NerdyPotato dumb autocorrect or not in that case lol
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