Is it okay to be “too comfortable” early in the dating stage?

Examples:
*Calling me stupid in a playful way
*Dismissing me when I’m talking
*Cuss and complain about other people in front of me
*Questions everything I do and give snarky comments on them

The situation is all too familiar to me. Abuse being disguised as a joke or playfulness. Talking to this person has its pleasures and also a run down to memory lane filled with trauma.

I adore a man who is more emotionally open and knows what he wants but there’s a catch. I feel like the stake is too high.

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HootyTheNightOwl

That's narcissism - read the flags in your post again...

Menetics · 26-30, F

@HootyTheNightOwl I figured but I didn't want to shut him off without giving him a chance.

HootyTheNightOwl

@Menetics I'm with a narcissist myself... if you can get out now before it's too late - then run for the hills.

It's better to save yourself early than it is to end up trapped in such a way that the only way out you have is to abandon the only life you have ever known - like I am preparing to do.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@HootyTheNightOwl Are you in too deep with him? How are you coping?

HootyTheNightOwl

@Menetics Married for 19 years at this point.

The good news is that I have the support of my man to help me to get out of here. For the past 9 years I have been looking for someone to love and support me through what I know must be done... I'm hoping that this weekend will be my last one spent here.

I don't know where I am going to go just yet, given the fact that I don't feel safe in this country - but, even being on the streets has to be safer for me than staying here any longer.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@HootyTheNightOwl I hope everything works out for you :)