Are you a fan of Non Monogamous Relationships?

Defo not a fan for myself. I agree with all you wrote.
Being committed to one man, and he I, (choosing to be) is sexy. There is something deep and quite special about it.

Very little is sacred anymore.

No. Marriage is a vow of commitment to each other.

I believe in loyalty, respect, honesty and faithfulness.
I think it's important for couples to make clear the expectations of each other and its for them to work together to work on maintaining the trust they develop in each other.

I loved someone and gave them too much of myself.
I don't believe they were undeserving I was just perhaps desperate.
Being an only child in a chaotic household, I wanted stability.
I didn't realise I could offer that for myself.
I watched good relationships in my aunts and uncles and grandparents.
So I wanted to replicate that.
But that can only happen when you meet someone that wants the sake things you do and value the same things you do.

I assumed we wanted the same things, because he told me what I needed to hear to get me to stay.

I don't try to impose my beliefs or ideals on others, that being said, I was raised to be a one woman man and the woman I am with needs to know that. If she doesn't want that kind of relationship, she has every right to walk and find what she wants. But I'm not going to change my wants to fit someone else's just like I wouldn't expect them to do it either. Need to be true to yourself.

I find that one relationship is more than enough. It's work and that's where a lot of people lose sight on it, they think that it's all honeymoon, fun and games, no struggles and move on. Where in reality, it's that and so much more. Respect and understanding, communication and trust, honoring the vows you've shared (if gone that far) and each other and through the sickness and in health, which sadly many don't know how to do. They leave when it stops being fun or their partner is no longer the pillar they leaned on for so long. It's what I like to call the "fast food society" Get it going, do what you want and throw it away when you're done.

Now, have I seen polyamorous relationships make it? Not yet, but then I've also seen a lot of monogamous relationships fail as well. I think it just takes the people involved to be willing to work hard it keeping it going. But for me, it's monogamy, well right now, it's just being alone and getting myself in better working order, but it WILL be monogamy when I'm ready again. :) So, after such a wordy ramble, I'd have to say, I'm not a fan for my life.

Monogamy is unnatural and a man made concept infused into humanity utilising the vulnerability of humans to love and sex that are natural urge.

The reason why it's losing its value. In fact monogamy has done more harm than good to humanity.

I have been involved in monogamous relationships as well as a fwb one and an open relationship. I think it is hard enough ( no pun intended) to find a suitable, loving partner let alone partners. Remaining open-minded, I am still seeking a lifetime partner. This seems to get harder as I get older what with less prospects and my refusal to settle for less than what I deserve. I respect anyone who commits to a loving relationship whether monogamous or not. And, no, non-monogamous is not cheating when both parties are in agreement.

Cheating is probably no more common than it used to be. Talking about it is much more common...

The only difference between the "good ol' times" and nowadays are that

1) it was much easier hiding infidelity, without technology and its traps and
2) there was a lot more stigma in breaking up, especially post-marriage.

People haven't changed, society did.

A "non-monogamous relationship" isn't a relationship; it's just people sleeping around 🙄

I do good to keep just one

Ugh! Hell no, that sounds exhausting. These people with more than one family, multiple partners, or even a three way relationship I was in once. LOTS of drama. And I hate everybody and my wife is the one person I can stand being with all the time.

I'm for both monogamous and open relationships, no one way is right for people. For the longest abuse was also seen as a family matter, thinking older decades as a golden age is a cognitive distortion.

if one DOES wait for sexuality, tillyou meet your "Mate" you can make it work
if the first and only is your partner, the sex can last for years and years
and that is not EVEN about the LOVE

It can be challenging finding others who genuinely value monogamy and traditional relationship dynamics. They’re out there though.

I was in a poly relationship for 5 years. (One man, 3 women). Wouldn't do it again.

Sometimes when people cheat it's because they stopped feeling loved or respected in their marriage but sure they could divorce. I just think it's okay to treat your spouse badly but just don't cheat.🤔 Why is one so much worse. We all need love and to feel respected and liked and understood. No one says anything about selfish partners. I mean just don't cheat. Respect a relationship all the way in all its aspects not just one.

I'm a little bit tired of seing "Commitment" reduced to a mere synonym for sexual exclusivity
Like first of all you're at least getting some so that's not really all that hard to do if you like your partner enough.
I certainly did and secondly

and secondly like I'm in a Polyamorous relationship and I've watched monogamous culture act like all of us drawn to that lifestyle are just immature and Committment phobic but he reality is about 5 years ago on realizing how big of a fan she was of I shall believe by sheryl crow I promised I wouldn't give up on her.

and I've been true to my word.

I think where I draw the most disgust at the reduction though it's being drained of meaning by monogamy's cheerleaders

it should mean so much more than sexual exclusivitiy, but the way people keep dropping it is watering that down .

while polygamy might work in some instances, most people aren't mature enough to handle one partner, let alone multiples... 🤔

Everything is possible when then is honestly.
Polyamory or being exclusive

No. It’s not for me, but each to their own.

Excellent post!! 👍

Thank you for BC.

No, I couldn't agree more. 😊🌷

Nope..i’m true blue!

No, it’s not my thing.

Not at all

Just cheating.

Yep. Awesome

Not a Fan.

No

No

Yes. before I got married I dated several girls I didn't have sex with

I just belive we are all on our own journey in life and for some it envoles a search for something and untill you have found it you are uneasy, I think in life we should all be more understanding towards that.

I am not.

No.