Are you a fan of Non Monogamous Relationships?

I saw this subject thread on SW this evening. & left a brief comment.

However the subject got me thinking about posting a little bit more on the topic .

Sadly I think its a reflection of the era we are living in. When I was a younger adult . A monogamous relationship was a relationship to be proud of , and certainly the essence was considered to be something worth presevering. Sadly today noone seems to want to take monogamy seriously.

Which ultimately affects the dynamics of any potential one 2 one relationship.

I dont believe in the concept of cheating, because ultimately we have free will & shouldnt try to pretend that we dont.

However more than this I believe in 'Failthfulness' & 'Respecting' the person you are supposed to be committed to . I guess the reality is noone wants to properly commit anymore & its a sad reality..as far as I am concerned.

How can you find commitment with some who steps forward ..then no more ..than a bit.

Might as well lower expectations & throw the towel in .

Goodluck to those who are happily coupled & truly realise the value of 'Exclusivity' 💞

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MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M

I don't try to impose my beliefs or ideals on others, that being said, I was raised to be a one woman man and the woman I am with needs to know that. If she doesn't want that kind of relationship, she has every right to walk and find what she wants. But I'm not going to change my wants to fit someone else's just like I wouldn't expect them to do it either. Need to be true to yourself.

I find that one relationship is more than enough. It's work and that's where a lot of people lose sight on it, they think that it's all honeymoon, fun and games, no struggles and move on. Where in reality, it's that and so much more. Respect and understanding, communication and trust, honoring the vows you've shared (if gone that far) and each other and through the sickness and in health, which sadly many don't know how to do. They leave when it stops being fun or their partner is no longer the pillar they leaned on for so long. It's what I like to call the "fast food society" Get it going, do what you want and throw it away when you're done.

Now, have I seen polyamorous relationships make it? Not yet, but then I've also seen a lot of monogamous relationships fail as well. I think it just takes the people involved to be willing to work hard it keeping it going. But for me, it's monogamy, well right now, it's just being alone and getting myself in better working order, but it WILL be monogamy when I'm ready again. :) So, after such a wordy ramble, I'd have to say, I'm not a fan for my life.