Some advice in the age of dating apps PLEASE

@SW-User tbh, i'm not sure if that's accurate for me. i like physical appearance too and sex appeal. it's just not enough on its own. and conversely, a person with average looks who gets me and helps me will win me over. intellect is a nice thing but creativity or a sense of humor are more attractive.

@blindbob that doesn't mean physical appearance should be disregarded .. but it is the soul and spirit that carries a person. If the mind is good physical attraction develops on its own.

As to tips I need to know your approach as to how you go about .. do you seek or choose amidst those who approach.

@SW-User where do you find them?

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@plungesponge indeed. but what else is there these days?

@OogieBoogie this is just where i come to vent, be silly, and explore curiosities. in my real life, i come across as very well put together. i sometimes have trouble relating with men online for all sorts of reasons. i'm not into video games, marvel movies, mumble rap music, and i'm not interested in talking about sex in the first few conversations, but i always try to meet people where they are, so if all you want to talk about is video games, i'll give it a stab, but there's only so long before i check out.

i don't think you can really understand this unless you've talked to men online as a woman. a lot of men are just not communicative. and those who are tend to spend the whole time bragging about themselves. maybe this is a cultural thing or just being nervous. idk, but i will say that i have spent time abroad for work and European men just seem to be better at it than American men. they seem to have broader interests are far as literature, movies, politics, and things like that. it's not just sports, video games, and sex.

@blindbobbelieve me, get where you're coming from.

I have a very gender neutral mind, well, I like to think I do 😁

And I find video games and sports.... Sort of 'irrelevant'.
And even a good intellectual conversation is no good when it becomes competitive.
I mean, I like considering new ideas and information, but when someone tells me what I should be thinking... I get huffy 😂.

So I understand.

But some of the best comversations are ones that passively Roll along, that stop and start, but pick up where they left of.

The most successful ones are the ones with no agenda other than a sharing of ideas, open to tangents and sillyness😊

@OogieBoogie agreed. i just had a pleasant conversation today. but it's rare. i also had a conversation with a guy yesterday who wanted to talk about why child labor is good. another who said that my family friend who died from Covid was just a statistic, last week the guy who described which race of women who gave the best blowjobs, a memorable guy who wanted to debate why a football team raping a girl shouldn't be criminally liable. so you can see how soul-sucking and demoralizing it can be to interact with men in these spaces. and i should add, i don't think they were intentionally offensive. they were completely clueless and at times they even expressed their ideas as if they were complimentary (e.g. "you're not the kind who would put yourself in that position"... "your race has the best body part for this" etc.)