Some advice in the age of dating apps PLEASE

I don't form attraction or attachments based on words or gifts. I'm drawn in by good deeds and actions, like someone helping me with a difficult chore or task, or if I see you doing something selfless for someone else. So I guess you could say my love language is acts of service. This makes dating online very difficult because it's all words. Either it's all endless small talk or the guys lay it on so thick, so much false flattery and compliments, so much boasting. It completely turns me off. I get so bored and detached.

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in10RjFox · M

That means you are a Sapiosexual like me.. and the only sense we like to be stimulated is our mind which is also our erogenous zone.. We are not turned on by any other senses such as eyes unless it's complimented by brain.

But I have been dating online for decades and I have had no issues finding my match though as guys we are not approached by gals as easily, and thus get to shape our intellect and wit to attract the mind kinds.

But as a gal I can reckon with your plight as you need to wade through a lot of flattery impersonation flattery false pretence etc... Which only tires you out and refrain from the activity itself.

But I can offer you some tips as to how you can do better in finding the gems amidst thrash.

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blindbob · 41-45

@in10RjFox what are your tips?

blindbob · 41-45

@SW-User tbh, i'm not sure if that's accurate for me. i like physical appearance too and sex appeal. it's just not enough on its own. and conversely, a person with average looks who gets me and helps me will win me over. intellect is a nice thing but creativity or a sense of humor are more attractive.

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in10RjFox · M

@blindbob that doesn't mean physical appearance should be disregarded .. but it is the soul and spirit that carries a person. If the mind is good physical attraction develops on its own.

As to tips I need to know your approach as to how you go about .. do you seek or choose amidst those who approach.